Hello! My fiance and I are very recently engaged, and so we have not really started any REAL planning, just sort of loosely talking about what we want- we have not set a date or anything. Neither one of us is really the party type, so we are really leaning towards a daytime wedding (wedding ceremony at like 10 or 11, ceremony right after that with lunch), with not a lot of dancing (if guests want to then that's fine! But it's not going to be a focal point).
That being said, we're both pretty traditional, and we do want to do all of the traditional dances, like the first dance, dancing with our parents, etc. My mom suggested maybe having a string quartet (we met in music school and love classical music) which we're not totally opposed to, but think it might be just a little too formal. We're thinking maybe having oldies (Nat King Cole, Frank Sinatra, etc.) playing during the reception, and then choosing specific songs for all of the traditional dances. We feel like we'd need a DJ to sort of keep the events of the reception flowing and play our songs when we needed them, but what we REALLY want to avoid is the kind of DJ that is going to be focused on hyping up the guests, making loud announcements, etc. There's nothing wrong with that, we just don't think it'd fit our style, which is a more lowkey, daytime affair. We honestly want someone whose involvement will be fairly minimal, mostly just making sure that the songs we need are played at the appropriate time, that the music doesn't stop, and someone to emcee the most important parts of the reception; we actually considered a playlist and hiring an emcee, but people online seem to say that is not a good idea, lol.
Has anyone else had a similar reception? Did you get a DJ? If so, did you talk to them about wanting something more lowkey?