Do bridesmaids and groomsmen stand together during ceremony?

You can do whatever you think is best as its your wedding

they are seperated as they are because the bridesmaids are supposedly standing up for you and then groomsmen for the groom

im pretty sure its just tradition based on the idea that your maid is your witness and his groomsmen is his

You can do whatever you like, it’s your wedding.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, I know, but what's your opinion on this?☺

It’s your wedding so whatever you want to do is going to be the right thing for you.

Honest opinion: I think it would look weird. If they stood close together to make it clear they were standing as “a couple” then I feel like they would look squished together and look weird.

They aren’t at the wedding to be a couple, they’re there for you to stand with you. Your bridesmaids are supposed to stand to be your support/witnesses and his groomsmen are his.

Also, how do you decide who stands on which side? Do you get the maid of honor and best man on your side or will they both be on his side? Are they all going to stay with their arms locked the whole time?

View Quoted Comment Traditionally the bride stood on the left and the groom stood on the right from the audience’s view point because in the past, other men would try to kidnap a bride. The groom would have an opportunity to throw a nice right hook 👊🏼. My opinion is we no longer need to have that tradition, since bride kidnapping doesn’t happen in the states. It would be just fine if all the bridal party stood together instead of being separated.

I think it’s weird from a “my girls are here to support ME” kind of way. Also that, and I know this is different, some wedding parties no one knows anyone, and some everyone knows everyone, but in ours, the girls knew the girls ahead of time and the boys knew the boys, so the girls got to stand with the people they knew and to mix up the gendered sides, they’d be standing in between people they don’t know....ultimately, it doesn’t really matter. I like the clean uniformity of the split look, but as long as you can coordinate aisle walks so it moves smoothly, there’s certainly nothing wrong with the idea.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your opinion!☺
I was thinking that I would pair them by height and kind of spread them evenly. I have a pretty proportioned bridesmaids and grooms (the girls are the same size and the men are around the same size). I was thinking of maybe having them (maid of honor and best man) stand on his side because thats where our Pastor usually stands so they can help out or anything. Hard to explain but in our culture, everyone does the same thing and weddings always look the same. I want to mix it go a little but I'm not sure that would look good. I agree with you they are there only for you, but my friends are also really good friends with him...
I guess I will have to practice with them and also see their opinion☺ thank you!

View Quoted Comment Yeah, that's what I was thinking too☺ I guess I'll have too practice and see what looks best!
Thanks you!

I think it depends on the relationships. My brother and his ex-wife chose to do what you are describing. It worked beautifully for them because they had all been friends since high school or earlier. They weren't his friends or her friends, they were their friends.

I think it would be strange because not all people feel comfortable pairing up in the first place with someone they barely know or don't know at all. It makes for less awkwardness and I think better pictures to have them separate. Also are they gonna stand side by side or just boy girl every other? If side by side, it's hard for the photographer to even get everyone in any pictures since one person is hidden by the other. I personally want to do as little as possible with the boy on the grooms side because I think it's so forced and I just don't like being around people I don't know.

View Quoted Comment Yes, I agree with you! I think it looks a little messy when its not split. I just want to try something different because our guests have been to the same looking weddings. We have this community of people and everyone knows each other and is friends with each other. So my bridesmaids and groomsmen are actually great friends so it's no problem for them.
Thank you☺

View Quoted Comment Yes! That's how it is with our wedding party! Everyone is friends with each other☺
I just dont know if the guests will feel uncomfortable. We are pretty conservative and I want to just get some advice if it looked good or not?
I really want to do it with pairs but if it looks weird then I guess I'm going with split look!
Thank you☺ your comment encouraged me!!

View Quoted Comment Yes, I agree with you, if you don't know someone then I wouldn't want to stand by them the whole day. Our wedding party knows everyone extremely well and we are great friends!
Sorry, what I meant by "uncomfortable" was from the guests side. Like do you think its acceptable or weird? If I were to do it, I'm not sure if all the guests would like that.
Thank you for your comment! I will definitely do it the split look if it looks weird with pairs. But stay assured, my friends and his friends don't mindstanding together!☺☺

View Quoted Comment Your ceremony is for you and your fiance. It doesn't matter if something like this might make them uncomfortable, although I can't imagine that it would. Mixed gender parties are very common, as long as your dearest friends and family are standing with you it will look lovely.