Do i ask his female friend to be a bridesmaid?

I asked 2 of my male friends to be bridesmen. They will dress like groomsmen, and may even stand on that side, but they will be invited to all bride and groom related activities and they can pick what they like

View Quoted Comment I like that idea and have actually attended a wedding where one of the bridesmaids was a male best friend. It all worked out.

My FH Zha’s one grooms woman and a best “ma’am” but they’ll most likely be getting ready with me because they’re also close friends of mine

If you ask her to be a bridesmaid I would treat her like one so she should be dressed like the other bridesmaids~

My brother is my man of honor. He’ll be dressing differently from the groomsmen and standing on my side. There’s really not that much logistics in it so don’t over think it. She’s his friend and can stand for him. Pick out a dress for her (it can be the same or diff from BM’s) and she stands where you ask her to.

We will be having a grooms woman in our wedding and she will be wearing a suit like the groomsmen. Her choice on which she would rather wear.

My husband had a grooms women on his side. Similarly I had met her a few times, but we are not close. She wore the BM dress after I asked her what she wanted to wear but did not carry a bouquet. She and her husband stayed with my husband's family. (they all came from AZ). But she hung out with my husband and the "boys" while they were all getting ready. She was friends with all of them, and it would have been awkward for her to be with us. My assumption is if you do a combo bridal/groom weekend, then she can stay with grooms folks. Ask her if that's awkward, but in my situation my husband's friend was perfectly comfortable being with the guys.

My brother is my bridesman. We are planning for him to get ready and hang out with the groomsmen, match the groomsmen outfit wise, but take photos and walk down the aisle with the bridesmaids.

My fiancé is having two grooms women. Since there are no guys on his they are just picking out any nice outfit in silver they want, my bridesmaids are picking our there dress.

I've become a bit closer with my fh's female bestie from high school since we met than what you're describing, but she's going to be my MOH. I would definitely have your fh's friend as a bridesmaid if you want to include her in that way.

I wouldn’t. I only wanted people I was close with on my side.
i don’t know why you wouldn’t just have her be a grooms woman. You can do whatever you guys choose as far as how to dress and walk down the aisle— there’s no wrong answer there as far as if you want her to match the girls or the men.

if you ask her to be your bridesmaid but also give her the option to “get ready with whoever you want” I feel that you’re putting her in an awkward position having to make that decision. (I for one would feel bad ditching you even if I would prefer hang out with the boys/my actual friend)

View Quoted Comment I totally agree with this!

She can be a groomsman. I have a male nest friend who is going to be a briadesmiad in a suit

My FH's sister is his Best Woman, and I have a Bridesman. She will be dressed and holding a bouquet like my Maid of Honor, and she'll be getting ready with me, and he will be in a suit like FH's groomsman and getting ready with him. We didn't worry about what was traditional - males as groomsmen, females as bridesmaids. We just went with who was closest to us and who we want to stand up with us.

I was the maid of honor in a close male friends wedding. His fiance actually choose me to be her maid of honor due to the friendship between me and her husband. It worked out well although it was a very casual wedding in a park so for me it was choose my attire and style myself however I wanted. We actually chatted through text and messenger prior to the wedding and I helped plan. Through the process we started out as strangers and ended up friends.

Since she is your FH friend it makes sense to have her on his side but it could also work to have her as a bridesmaid. If you choose to have her as a bridesmaid she can wear what the other maids wear or if she prefers something with pants. If you choose to have her on your FH side she can wear a dress in a matching color to the groomsman, pantsuit, jumpsuit or even her own color. There are so many outfit choices that you could choose. For flowers if she is a bridesmaid I would let her carry what the others do and if she is a groomsman a nice touch would be a pin on corsage. I would arrange to meet with her to see if she would prefer to be a groomswoman or bridesmaid then go from there. It really depends on whether she would be comfortable as a groomswoman as some people might not be comfortable with that and speaking from experience I'm glad my friend and his wife made me the maid of honor as I would have felt weird in any other role besides a bridesmaid. Whatever you choose in terms of getting ready on your wedding day an idea is to let her get ready and hang out with the ladies which could be really fun and might not be as awkward as hanging out with the men which she may or may not be comfortable with as everyone is different. I like the idea of giving her the choice of hanging out with the side she chooses. I wouldn't worry about traditional roles and would make sure to give her the role that you, your FH, as well as herself agree suits her best.

I’m having my best friend (male) be my my ManOH. He is going to take part in all of my stuff and wear a suit jacket to match the BMs. I’d do whatever you feel comfortable with but I would much rather him be standing next to me as he’s been my friend since childhood. I’ve also seen groomswomen wear the same dress as BMs but in the color of the groomsmens suits (navy dress etc). I think each situation is different but I wouldn’t feel obligated to make her a BM just because of her gender when she is there as your FH’s longtime friend.

We have both a groomswoman and several bridesmen. Groomswoman will be wearing same color/fabric dress as bridesmaids but standing on opposite sides and bridesmen will wear same suit as groomsmen but stand on my side. The groomswoman prefers to attend the bachelorette party (as she’s my fiancé’s cousin) and my bridesmen that are my friends will be invited to both bachelor and bachelorette party. My bridesmen that are my brothers will attend bachelor party.
It’s all based on their preferences and personalities!

My FH has a woman on his side! They’ve grown up together and are super close. I didn’t mind what she wore but I wanted her to match the navy suits. She could either do a women’s pant suit or a long dress (it doesn’t have to be the same as the bridesmaid) She’ll be taking part in the bachelor party since she’s obviously much closer to him. For getting ready she’ll be getting her hair and make up down on her own (her brother owns a salon) then meeting up with the groomsmen.
You and your FH can decide which side you need her to stand on and then give her the options like you said!

I asked my husbands good female friend, but she’s also a friend of mine, just not that close. It was a great bonding experience but I could also see how it could create a lot of drama if it was the wrong personalities. I don’t think the logistics of asking her to be a groomswoman are that complicated as long as you’re okay with her attending all of the activities mentioned above.

I wouldn't ask her to be a bridesmaid. FH has a groomswoman and I have a bridesman. I don't know FH's groomswoman so it wouldn't make sense for her to stand up with me. The logistics aren't that complicated for us (yet?). She's wearing the same color as my bridesmaids (FH's decision - although I'm trying to convince him to have her in grey/silver since that's the suit color they are wearing) and my bridesman will wear the same suit as the other groomsmen - I'll have something special for him, I just haven't decided what yet.

Before the wedding, she'll do everything with the guys and my bridesman will do everything with us. She will come into our room for hair and makeup day of but for everything else she'll be with the guys. Same with my bridesman, he'll be with us all day.