Do i have to invite my soon to be brother in laws girlfriend?

Your day, your way! You have those present you want there and those who will
enjoy the moment and act accordingly. Otherwise, those are the ones that don’t have to or need to be there.

When my brother got married, they told me I wasn't allowed to bring my boyfriend at the time, as they both hated him. I was upset at first, but I was a bridesmaid, and knew I wouldn't see much of him. In retrospect, it was a good thing as we are no longer together. They also didn't allow my moms boyfriend at the time, because him and my dad don't get along.

It's a hard conversation to have, but you're spending so much money on having a perfect day, and don't want someone ruining it. I would approach it with your concerns about her or the situation, and just explain how you feel. If you haven't sent out invitations yet, before you do, explain to him why she isn't invited, and he should be understanding. In the end, this day is about you and your future husband and the love you share, and you shouldn't spend that day worried about someone else and if they may assault you on your big day.

Best of luck!

She punched you in the face? Sounds like she is a risk. Yeah. NO! God forbid she punches a guest who has no idea who she is and then that guest presses charges. So many issues with that. It's a no. Are you keeping it to only married/engaged? They don't even fall under long commitment relationship! We did married and engaged only OR been together 5+ years. No kids, no BF/GFs, and no one that has punched me in the face. That's an easy out. Not to mention, this is not your conversation to have. Your FH needs to have this conversation with his brother on why she is not invited. I could go for days... Where's the Simon Cowell, "it's a no for me" GIF? Sorry, I am just shocked! I am so sorry you even have to consider this.

View Quoted Comment It’s still something that’s been debated on due to the repurcussions on if I don’t invite her verses if I do.

FH and I both don’t necessarily want her there but if I don’t invite her to the wedding then I’m not inviting her to anything else and then people who don’t know will talk and it’ll just cause more unnecessary drama in the long run.

If we do decide then we have a very strict no drinking rule. Like she can have pop or water. And the bartender will be notified on this. However my worry would be that she would just sneak something in or get someone else like my BIL to get her something.

Needs to be discussed a little more but I think we are leaning more towards having her come to make it easier.

View Quoted Comment I’m so sorry that someone who has only been around for a year has this much power and buy-in on your day. Hoping the best in this situation for YOUR day.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I know it’ll be a special day regardless but yeah it is a slight bummer