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Just Said Yes November 2019

Do i invite my grandparents to my destination wedding?

Brenna, on December 27, 2018 at 5:28 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6
I’m planning a very intimate (Smiley heart0 guests) Las Vegas wedding. My fiancé and I are from Texas, so this will be a destination wedding for everyone. I would prefer to keep to keep the guest list to parents and close friends, but my mom insists I invite her parents (my parents are contributing minimally to the wedding, fiancé and I will foot the majority of the bill). I am very close to my grandparents and would love to have them there, but they do not travel well in their old age. We are imaging an inclusive, extended weekend in Vegas and in my rough planning stages I’m already running into issues with what I want to do and accommodating what my grandparents can do. On top of everything, my mom has started to complain about having to “babysit” my grandparents the entire time. Having my grandparents at the wedding looks like it will add a level of stress that I’m not interested in. Is it wrong to not invite them? And how do you lovingly tell someone they’re too stressful to invite to your wedding?

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Latest activity by Allie, on December 27, 2018 at 8:59 PM
  • Kenisha
    Champion June 2019
    Kenisha ·
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    I think you should invite them.
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  • HayMrsO
    Master October 2018
    HayMrsO ·
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    I did not invite my grandparents to my wedding. The wedding was on the central coast of California. Grandpa lives about 7 hours from there and Grandma lives in Montana. I was not going to figure out how to logistically get them there (no big airport near by). Then figure out how they would get around. And finally have to figure out how they would get down the 50 steps to the beach for the ceremony and back up afterward. It was more than I could deal with and frankly, more than they wanted to. My mom was not up for it either and I didn't need her in a mood all weekend.

    If your mom is insisting, then she needs to be 100% in charge of them and doesn't get to complain one bit. Have you talked to them about it? They might not even want to make the trip. They might feel just fine about you giving them an "out". Explain to them what you will be doing. How much walking and go-go-go Vegas is (even walking from the casino to your room can be quite a trek). I bet they make the decision for you.

    Good luck!


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  • Summerbride77
    VIP July 2019
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    I would invite them and leave it up to them whether or not they decided to come. I would also talk with your mom about why it's important to you to invite your grandparents. You can also brainstorm how to best include them and to make sure no one is 'babysitting' throughout the weekend.

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  • Gipperkm
    Super September 2018
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    Exactly this

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  • Kenisha
    Champion June 2019
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    This answer is everything.
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  • Allie
    Expert April 2019
    Allie ·
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    We invited parents and siblings/significant others. A total of less than 20 people (as J is one of 6 kids).
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