we’re having a hard time figuring out if we should invite a couple to our wedding that we used to be friends with. Last NYE my fiance (then boyfriend) and I went out of town spontaneously - literally day before New Year’s Eve- to celebrate the new year in Sedona. He had to work Christmas and I didn’t get to see him because I had already booked a ticket to go back home and see our families. When I got back from holiday he ended up getting the next couple of days off so we just decided to take a spontaneous road trip and spend time together. When we got back my best friend told me this couple was talking behind our backs saying how rude it was that we didn’t invite them and how that’s all they could talk about for the night. Anyway we didn’t really care and brushed it off because it wasn’t malicious.A month later we’re hanging out with this couple and all of a sudden the girl looks really mad. I ask her what’s wrong why is she mad and she says “your guys going to propose to you soon.” I politely asked her to stop and not tell me anything more because she clearly just ruined the surprise factor for me. I’ve been with my guy for 10 years so I was pretty devastated to have that taken away from me. I talked about it with my boyfriend and he was like wow I can’t believe they told you because he and the other guy were talking about how they were both going to propose around the same time. A few weeks later I hear that the guy friend is talking behind my back telling people he doesn’t like me so I confront him to squash it. I think we’re moving forward and he’s saying things like I’m so “happy we worked things out” and I’m just like okkkkkk idk why there’s drama in the first place.Anyways a month later they get engaged and two weeks later my guy proposes to me (the exact time he told them he would). The moment we landed back home people are telling us how they are talking behind our backs ...again...and saying how my guy only asked me because his friend did it and that it’s soo convenient that he proposed two weeks later. It sucks because they called us their friends??? And she told me that he was going to propose months prior so ???? Idk. Anyways we basically just stopped talking to them and have been telling them we’re busy everytime they ask to hang out because we don’t want the drama or to be friends with people like that. It’s almost been a year since we’ve hung out and they don’t really talk at work anymore. But I was going to invite them because they still work together, it’s going to be a big college reunion and he would be the only person from work and our old friend group not invited BUT then she told me that he’s back to hating me.
So now that you have that whole back story I need some insight. Do I invite them? Like should I invite someone who opening talks about us behind our back? My fiancé says he’ll do whatever I want but we’re so anti drama I just don’t want to create more. And I don’t want to make work weird or have it be weird that all of his college friends coming in to town and they’re the only two not invited. Please help
