Do i need a bridal shower??

You certainly don't have to have a bridal shower if you don't want one! Instead of a bridal shower, what if your mom instead phrased it as a bridal luncheon? That way, you still get the celebrate with everyone (and she can still host the party), and no one needs to bring a gift. When she says she wants this opportunity, it's the opportunity to celebrate you that is so important to her.

No you don't need one, but if someone is offering to host one then I would let them. Is there anything new you could use? For example, before we got married we had plates and bowls, but none of them matches so we asked for a matching set. Another option is there anything you really want, but might not have purchased yet. For example, I really wanted to the InstantPot, but I wasn't sure how I'd like it so I asked for it for my shower rather than buying it myself. These are just a few ideas.

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Seconding this. You can also ask for things like monogrammed dish towels, a new front door mat, etc. that could be personalized.

View Quoted Comment This is pretty much what we did. We had a lot of the basics but I really wanted a standing mixer and blender. We also had mis matched plates and just old sheets. So if she really wants to throw you one I would let her.

No you don’t need to. I didn’t. Also I don’t know what your relationship with your mom is but it’s okay to say no to her. She might get upset but it’s not her wedding

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Yes, to all of this. Your mom's desire to throw a bridal shower is FAR less important than your preference to not have one. In the end, it's a completely optional party that plenty of people happily do with out (I didn't have one and have zero regrets).

This is one time in your life that doesn’t have to be for other people. This time is for you and your FH’s desires.
I didn’t have a bridal shower.

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Yeah I didn't do a bridal shower or engagement party and Im not doing a rehearsal dinner either. It's just not my vibe and despite the fact that some family wanted to I just didn't

If you don't want a bridal shower for gifts then don't do a shower. It's completely up to you. I debated having one and finally did, it was a fun way to get together with my lady friends for lunch and party games.

I did not want to have a bridal shower AT ALL. But my mom wanted to have one for me so I had it. It was one of the best days of my life. Having all of my closest women in my life together; family, cousins, aunts, nieces and a couple close friends. It was truly a beautiful and emotional experience.

I did & loved being with my friends & family all together. We have two full houses to consolidate into one so we asked for gift cards to buy storage containers & organization systems. It worked out great & made it easy for our guests.

Showers are completely optional. If you have everything you need, then I'd argue you shouldn't be agreeing to a shower. Their whole purpose is to help provide the necessities to a couple just starting out. Your mom is off base in telling you it's for other people. By definition that's not true.

Even if you were the only daughter in your family your mother truly has nothing tangible at least to gain from you having a bridal shower unless she is somehow assuming automatic responsibility for your future home being furnished that way fyi. That said likely concerns about her own reputation as a generous mother of the bride aside as family she is in no position etiquette-wise to throw you a shower which appears to be the case here imho at least. In short if you have everything you could possibly need in the pragmatic way of houseware no you definitely do not need or even remotely require a shower for that; however you could still have the more intimate as in less formal kind of shower in which you would customarily receive lingerie items & the like as at least those presumed essentials unlike houseware items would likely be inappropriate as official wedding presents especially in mixed company ime & imho. Hope that helps & please keep us posted