Do invite this friend to my wedding?

I just posted a similar topic & the best thing someone told me was "if you even have to think about whether you want to invite this friend, then you already have your answer." You want to be surrounded by your closest people on your wedding day & you want to be able to trust that you will have their love and support. Maybe create some distance between you and your friend and see if she reaches out in the next couple of months.

I totally understand where you are coming from. Think of it this way, if you didn't meet her in high school and you met her today, would you still be friends with her?

Do you two ladies keep in touch regularly? Do you feel she would be there for you no matter what? Are you included in her special days? If no, then tell her did to budget and guests list you cannot add anymore. Would you miss her if she was no longer your friend? Answer those questions amd you got your answer.

It sounds like she’s not someone who would bring joy to your wedding. If you don’t invite her though, feelings will be hurt and your friendship may not last. If you’re okay with that, I wouldn’t invite her based on what your feelings sound like.

It doesn't sound like this is someone that should be invited your wedding. I also have no clue what type of food you are planning on having fmbut $350 per person is outrageous and there is no way I would spend that.

I don't think that commenting about eating less meat is a reason to call your friend selfish or not invite her to your wedding, however, you don't have to have a reason not to invite someone. You're already discussing wedding details with her which, of course, is going to lead her to believe that she's invited. So as long as you're fine with losing this friendship permanently, don't invite her.

You are not required to invite anyone to your wedding. If you are questioning it, you probably shouldn't invite them.

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Lol I was thinking the same thing. I'm at $60 per guest and trying to get it down to less than $50

View Quoted Comment Our was $70 a per person, but ours was buffet style. For plated it would been approximately $110 per person. I have never heard of someone spending $350 per person because frankly that's unnecessary.

Personally, I feel if you're questioning inviting her, don't invite her. I think subconsciously you already made up your mind on that. My FH and I made tough decisions on our guest list by asking each other "if _______ was not there, would we be upset?". If the answer is no, we didn't invite them.

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Yeah I'm honestly curious as to what the real cost driver is there. We're serving LAMB and it's only $60/pp

I wouldn't invite her, she sounds like a selfish person!

Honestly I wouldn't invite anyone that you don't really like even talking to aha. I feel like just because you're 'friends' doesn't really mean you're that close anyway.