Do people have alcohol for guests even if the bride doesn’t want it there

It really depends on how big of a wedding you're having, what time of day, etc.

FH and I don't drink much, but we will be providing alcohol because we know our guests drink. It won't be open bar, so there will be a limit (once it's out, it's out) and it'll only be beer and wine. If you don't serve alcohol, people will more than likely leave early to go drink or they'll be sneaking drinks of their own stuff if they knew it was going to be a dry wedding.

I originally didn't plan on providing alcohol, but was told it comes across as cheap if you don't have it (kinda like not feeding your guests I suppose). Hope this helps!

Unless you specify a dry wedding, there will usually be alcohol served. You can limit it to beer and wine only, and that will probably be a decent compromise.

Just because you don’t drink, doesn’t mean that you should prohibit your guests from doing so. People can still be happy for you with a glass of wine or a cocktail in them.

Does your fiancé drink? He has expressed interest in having alcohol served at the wedding. Just because you don’t drink doesn’t mean no one else can. I think if your budget allows it, you should provide alcohol, 1- your fiancé has asked for it and 2- your guests will appreciate it.

This isn't just your wedding - this is a day for both you and your FH. I'd talk to your FH and find a compromising point. just because you don't drink, doesn't mean guests can't drink either. Maybe you can limit the amount of alcohol the vendor serves.

Yes. Have the alcohol. Just because you do not Sri k doesn’t mean it should be a dry wedding.
Have limited amounts and when it’s gone it’s gone, unless you are having it at a location with an unlimited open bar. Sorry, but more people expect to have alcohol at a wedding than not.

Yes, I agree with previous posters. You may not drink, but if the majority or at least half your guests drink, you should provide some type of alcohol beverage. Now, it doesn't have to be th whole open bar with top shelf choices. But at least beer and wine. At the very minimum just champagne or sparkling wine. It doesn't have to be fancy! I totally get where you are coming from. And your wedding day is going to be amazing no matter what. But you want your guests to be comfortable and content as well. A few drinks for everyone will be great.

As others have said, you may not drink but I’m sure your guests do. Does FH drink? I would have some sort of bar, whether it’s open beer and wine, cash bar, signature drinks only or something along those lines. I don’t drink (maybe 1-2 drinks a year) and I would not even imagine hosting a wedding without some type of alcohol

I'm more curious to know why you're not wanting alcohol there, it seems to be to it than just because you dont drink? Is there a painful memory attached to alcohol? I'm not a drinker either but would be perfectly ok with alcohol being served. Please explain the deeper reasoning.

So skip it. I know a lot of people get heated over dry weddings but why pay for something you don’t even want to have? You’re feeding the guests, you’re providing comfortable seating and entertainment. Nowhere does it state in etiquette that you have to provide liquor in order to be a gracious host.

Choose a time of day people are less likely to drink and keep that food coming! You won’t get a crazy party atmosphere with a dry wedding but you can still make it fun.

We went back and forth on this. Honestly if you are afraid of how people will act with alcohol or you have several alcoholics in the family (we do have several in both our families and friend groups) then I wouldn’t have it. I’ve seen weddings ruined because uncle so-so couldn’t stand up and fell and broke a table or made a terrible speech or made a scene and started a fight. Or if it is not in the budget, since y’all both didn’t really want any in the beginning.
If this is not an issue. Then maybe only do beer and wine and keep it to a two glasses and two beer minimum as a compromise. People don’t need booze to have fun. they will be fine. It’s not their choice it’s y’alls.
hope this helps! 😊

Could always be a middle ground or having limited alcohol

This is your wedding day, if they want alcohol they should pay for it. Have a cash bar or tell them to suck it up lol

I'm always in support of providing alcohol at weddings, and if your FH wants it, I think he deserves a vote too. Even if you're not going to drink, it's generally expected and overall a nice thing to do to have drinks available.

It’s only because his friends got in his ear and first he agreed to no alcohol and the place I choose for wedding doesn’t provide alcohol drinks.

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