Do we invite his sister to the rehearsal dinner?

Thanks for replying. Yeah, unfortunately I think I will have to suck it up and atleast invite her and hope she can’t make it so to work. I don’t intentionally want to cause tension out of nowhere but this has been going on for a while and so if she’s acting like this towards me I don’t mind taking a turn stirring the pot lol

Thanks for commenting!! We have agreed that we will not be extending the invite to SOs. I don’t believe in that. I believe rehearsal dinners are for those directly involved in the wedding. A few hours away from their SOs won’t hurt them. Also, SOs are still invited to the wedding. If we do invite Her it’s a pity invite bc she’s the only sibling not involved in the wedding who happens to be married to a groomsman.

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You're certainly entitled to your opinion and to invite whomever you want, however it does not change the fact that it is against etiquette and considered rude to not invite at least spouses and engaged partners to the rehearsal dinner. Be prepared that some people may be upset and choose not attend due to being offended by the deliberate slight.

View Quoted Comment I feel like it was a formal rehearsal dinner like at a steakhouse or something fancy then yes you should invite SOs but this is just a casual thing as a thank you to those directly involved in the wedding. We want to personally thank those spending money and giving their time to our wedding. Their SOs will survive one meal without them lol

View Quoted Comment Lol but didn’t you say you aren’t inviting SO’s? Well since she’s his SO and you aren’t inviting any others, then don’t. But if you can squeeze her in, just invite her... maybe she’ll feel he bad about not inviting you to hers and won’t come! Lol good luck girl..i was married Oct. 6th, and still don’t get along with my sister in law. Lol

View Quoted Comment With rehearsal dinners, if it is a formal sit down dinner, and some are couples, all must be allowed to have SO's. And when out of town RS and a variety or grandparents, good parents, others are in couples and family units, all should have SO invited. But it is fine to have just members of the family and BP actually rehearsing, no sisters or brothers not BM orGM, and no one's significant others. Not a formal couples event, a thank you closed to all but participants in the ceremony, and hosts, is and always has been fine. People get carried away with thinking SO have to be invited everywhere. The wedding is a formal, couples or social unit event. But a rehearsal dinner can go participants and hosts only, or couples and families. You just cannot invite some SO not others, or extra guests like OOT or family friends, without extending it to BP SO. That is traditional etiquette, and fine still.

View Quoted Comment Not true .

I can’t imagine inviting his family, except her. No, you don’t have to be fake friends but I would include her to the rehearsal dinner.

Well, it seems as if you've just answered your own question. You're not inviting SOs of the wedding party, because it's a large wedding party. So, since she's not part of the wedding party, she's not invited. Simple as that.

I wouldn't invite her. If it's strictly just the wedding party, then there shouldn't be any issues bc she's not in the wedding. We're doing the same thing. Only the wedding party, and parents, are invited to the rehearsal and the dinner. I know some people invite everyone and their brother but this is practice for the next day and a chance to say thank you to our wedding party and to hand out gifts. So don't feel bad for not inviting her. I do think you shpuld talk to your fiance and make sure he's on the same page though

I think that was incredibly rude of her. My FSIL got married last May and she included me in family pictures. We’re engaged, it’s basically a contract that says “Hey we’re doing the thing”. If you aren’t reviewing backlash from not inviting other SO’s, then I would leave her out. I will say that I have a similar situation, except the cousin I’m question doesn’t cause drama. I opted to invite her to the wedding to avoid the drama of her being the only family member on that side not invited. I just didn’t want to deal with the nonsense. She shouldn’t cause any though, because if she does, she’s basically admitting that what she did to you was not ok.

I know people are saying to be the bigger person, but tbh I wouldn’t lol. FH’s sister hates me and we’re debating if she’s even invited to the wedding. I think if you don’t want her there, she doesn’t have to be invited.

Just to confirm - you are inviting her husband to the rehearsal but not his wife, who is the blood relative? Is her husband in the wedding?

You should invite her. You were a SO of family at her wedding. She IS family. I know its difficult, but i think it's best to just invite her.