Do we need a registry?

We're not doing a registry.
We've been living together for almost 2 years, so we have a pretty established home and not needing anything. But I too feel weird picking things out for other people to buy 🙈

It's not rude. But some people do like to give gifts rather than money so maybe put together something small? We don't need anything and when we do we just go get it, but we did a small registry anyway at my sister's behest and stopped shopping. Lol.

I generally find registries odd, but we made a small one. Lots of people here say that if you don't have a registry people will give you cash gifts. My family, however thinks cash gifting is rude, so they will buy physical gifts registry or no. Hence, I made a small registry (and have gotten several non registry items as well). If your family is asking and is inclined toward physical gifts, you should make a small registry as a guide, but it's not rude to not have one - especially if you're not having a shower.

We're both in our 40s, both have houses, and both have kids. I registered us on Amazon with just a few items. People can purchase one, contribute to one, or buy a gift card. I really don't mind Amazon gift cards at all!

We registered before even announcing our engagement. People want to get you things! Why are you fighting it? Bare minimum, put together a simple Amazon registry with his and her spa stuff.

I don't think it's rude not to have a registry. Just don't outrightly ask people for monetary gifts because that's when it becomes rude.

View Quoted Comment Right! I'm glad I'm not the only one. I couldn't think of anything that we would "need" either (and certainly don't want to accumulate unnecessary things). Thanks for your input 😊

I don’t think it’s rude at all not to register! I don’t see how it could’ve rude to not tell people what things you’d like them to buy you lol!

I have been to many weddings where there was no ceremony. Often, the couple would include a note that read something along the lines of, "We value time more than material things, and your presence is present enough. If you would like to provide something more tangible,..." then they would have a honeyfund or a wishing well where people could contribute.

I thought it was weird as well, but people just want to know what you actually need instead of buying you something redundant. I would rather do a registry and let people know where their money is going than to give us cash and wonder what we did with it.

We have lived together for the last 3 years and we have mostly all the house stuff we want. We made a small one on Amazon with things we like, home gym stuff, camping stuff, china, nothing real crazy. I think it said that we had the majority of the gifts in the $25-50 range.

I don't think it's necessary, I only have a small one for the shower (which I didn't want but FH is an only child and his mom wanted to throw one).

We’re not doing a registry. I feel like it’s so awkward to think about making a list of things for people to buy you. That’s what I did when I was a kid making a Christmas list for my parents. I understand a lot of people do it, and that’s fine, just not something I feel comfortable doing. FH and I are grown ups with full time jobs, if we want something, we buy it ourselves.

I definitely don't think it's rude not to register if you don't want to. My FH and I are in a similar situation to you where we have our own homes and don't really need anything. That being said, I did do a small registry on Amazon of things that i wanted to upgrade (like new towels, glasses, higher quality sheets, an Echo, a bike rack, travel golf bag, etc) because my family was throwing me a shower and i figure it would then be there for the few people who would prefer giving boxed gifts vs cash at the wedding.

We have a smaller registry from Amazon, 80 items for 160 households. We also did a honeyfund with a few items for our honeymoon in Hawaii. I'm hoping people mostly just give cash or money, but Amazon was nice because we could do camping stuff and unique items. I don't think it's rude not to register, but if you even did a small one people might appreciate it.

We aren't registered anywhere either. We have everything we need, so it would be a waste for people to buy us things. We are also trying to save to buy our own house so we need money more than anything. We aren't putting anything at all for a registry on the invitations.

Thank you ALL for your input....definitely helped out! I think we might do a small Amazon registery. I didn't even know that was an option before lol. Thanks!!