Do you check in with each other before making a big purchase?

Sometimes, depends on the purchase. If I want to splurge on an expensive purse I'm not going to check in with him, I will show it to him after I buy it. But if I'm buying something like a car then of course I would involve him, but mostly for his opinion since I'm paying for it myself. Any large purchase for our home we make together.

We don't share a bank account yet but since we got engaged we definitely do check in with each other on purchases depending on how big it is.

Definitely! But we don't splurge on anything. The most expensive thing we pay for is rent lol. But he can buy all the little things he wants and same for me. It's just bigger purchases we run by each other.

Always yes. We don’t have enough money to make big purchases without consulting each other.

Now, always. But that wasn't always the case. I had a hard time getting FH to understand that he needs to check with me now that our finances are merged. I pay all the bills, and handle the household finances. So, you can't just go blow $85 dollars on a pair of shoes you don't need until you check with me!!

After a couple of close calls with the finances, I think he finally gets it. At first he was thinking that I was trying to control what he spent his money on, etc. He took the attitude that "I'm a grown ass man, who works hard and should be able to buy whatever I want with my hard-earned money." True, but now I think he understands that I am counting on his pay coming into the household, so there needs to be communication when spending money, so I have an accurate accounting. If he wants to buy something, it's usually fine. Just TALK to me first.

We haven't discussed this until recently. But we have decided if it's over $100 we have to discuss it with the other before we get it.

We will usually discuss a large purchase. I would say anything over $1000. All of our accounts are joint accounts, but I am the Finance Minister of the family If I see a purchase that he never mentioned, I will ask about it, just to make sure it is valid. But he really doesn't need to ask permission.

Yeah we do for the big purchases. Unless it's a surprise.

We consult each other if it is over $500. But, if our bills our paid and money is still going into our savings, then we don’t really care. We are both really responsible with saving money but still like to splurge and treat ourselves & each other every now and then.

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That makes sense!! I would do the same thing!

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I am all for the joint account for bills and rent, makes so much sense! But, it's also nice to have your own account where you can go shopping for clothes and what not and not feel like you are using their money!

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That's awesome! That's how my parents do it as well, from electronics to cars, they always go together!

Prior to being engaged, not really. It has to be something major like a car. Otherwise no. We have separate accounts. We both work hard for our money, so we spend it as we please and we trust each other not to make crazy unnecessary purchases.

Not really I feel once we are married we will more

Yes! Especially with the wedding planning.

We keep our money separate and we pay our agreed upon part of the bills. So nope.

Yes. Every time. We live together and my finances and his finances are our finances. It's usually more of a head's up than a question of whether the other approves or not.

Always. We make big purchases together by discussing them and deciding to go for it or not.

We always run it by each other just to let them know.

Yes always if it’s a big amount other than a gift we don’t mention it to each other but it’s neva a extremely big cash gift