My husband has 2 younger first cousins who got married last year. Both Cousin #1 and Cousin #2 had private ceremonies (elopement, and microwedding respectively). Cousin #1 has invited us to a big celebration of marriage party this year and we've seen the couple on social outings. We gifted them cash on first outing. However, we have not spoken with Cousin #2, only heard she got married out of state with immediate family. Cousin #2 sent her Aunt (my husband's Mom) a pictured wedding announcement, but did not send to my husband or his sister. Now this seems like a secret wedding we know of from family gossip, so we all don't know if or how to address it.
Do we send Cousin #2 cash, too? Or even a wedding card? Husband's Mom threw away their current address.
Worth noting is both cousins and partners were invited to our big 2021 wedding. Cousin #1 could not attend but sent a cash gift. Cousin #2 did attend w/partner and gave a cash gift of equal amount. Both couples are respectable human beings and lovely so we don't think their marriages were under duress.
TIA