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Richaelyn
Devoted July 2021

Do you have to do wedding/bridal party gifts?

Richaelyn, on June 21, 2021 at 9:11 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10
My fiancé and I are a young couple (both 21 years old) and we are mostly paying for our wedding by ourselves. We are already stretching our money very thin to pay for everything. We also been discussing if we can even pay for everything at this point. I like the idea of wedding party gifts but, we don’t have room in the budget for them. If I did decide on doing something, I would not want to give them something cheap but something nice and of good quality. Would I be looked at as a bad bride or a bad person for not getting them something? I would do it if I could.

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Latest activity by Kari, on June 22, 2021 at 3:42 PM
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    Super July 2023
    Eniale ·
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    Gifts are never mandatory, no matter what the situation.

    I have only ever been given a bridal party gift one time.

    I feel the tradition was actually started as yet another way for brides to make their girls coordinate without actually telling them to (by gifting things such as matching robes for getting ready, giving them matching jewelry, etc.)

    Some brides genuinely give their parties real gifts (not "here's how you can further conform to my wedding" gifts), but again, this is not at all mandatory.

    Being in the bridal party is supposed to be an honor, something you ask only of people that you deeply cherish, which used to be the gift itself.

    You are fine not to give them anything. Be a good friend first, a bride second, and make sure you treat them well through the process, and that is enough.

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  • SLY
    Master January 2022
    SLY ·
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    If you can't do gifts, you could always hand write a note to each person thanking them for all that they've done! You could do that, and then one weekend after the wedding maybe take everyone out to dinner, or have a little dinner party at your place? A small gesture is better than no gesture!

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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    The wedding party gifts are a thank you to your wedding party for all the time and money they have spent on your wedding and other wedding-related activities (bridal shower, bachelor/bachelorette parties if you had them). You don't have to spend a ton of money on gifts, but some thoughtful token of your appreciation is appreciated. If you need to cut costs somewhere, this isnt what I would scrap.
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  • Richaelyn
    Devoted July 2021
    Richaelyn ·
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    I think I’ll do this. After the wedding, we’ll be able to recover financially so We’ll be able to do this.
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  • SLY
    Master January 2022
    SLY ·
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    I think it'll be nice, and your wedding party will appreciate it!

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  • Thinn
    Devoted September 2021
    Thinn ·
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    Your bridal party should understand. I know my bridesmaids would. A Thank You note would suffice if you don’t want to do bridal party gifts. Do what works for you
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    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    A handwritten thank you note and a framed picture is a great, cheap and meaningful wedding party gift idea IMO. I do think it’s important to thank them some way since they probably spent a lot of time and money for your wedding.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    You need to give something as a thank you for the ton of money and time and emotional support they gave you. It doesn’t have to be expensive (and please don’t give proposal boxes or day of props such as robes/jewelry, etc) but it should be heartfelt toward each individual.
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  • Sara
    Expert August 2021
    Sara ·
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    I don't think it is necessary, but because the bridal party is paying for everything themselves (suits, dresses, hair ect) we are going to be giving them gifts. They are handmade though, we made swords for the men and wands for the girls
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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    The wedding party gifts are a thank you for the time and money they have invested in your event. If you cannot afford to give them a gift, I would keep expectations for them very minimal and at least give them a heartfelt hand-written note. If you are expecting your bridal party to throw you a shower, bachelorette, and buy a lot of stuff to go with your wedding, then skimping on the gift would be very rude, IMO.

    If you are being a super laid back bride and letting them do mismatched bridesmaids dresses from dresses they already own or being very flexible about what they purchase, then I don't think a gift is necessary but a thank you note (separate from the standard thank you's that go to all your guests) should always be given.

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