I’m in my 30’s & not interested in getting drunk or strippers. I want something more chill - a getaway where we possibly get drunk doing wine tasting, eat good food, maybe take a spin or yoga class. This girl’s trip would have my sister, few cousins, and 2 close friends. Also, we all have responsibilities now, so it’s hard to do something big. We were thinking of a small weekend getaway that’s an hour away from home. I’ve known my groom’s female cousins for years but we get along but not close. My fiance's cousin, Barb, said that she's had a tough year and needed a vacation so bad, so, she essentially wants to turn my bachelorette party into this big vegas party with her and her girl cousins. Maybe it's a nice gesture but I find it selfish that someone would want to use my occasion as their own party. And if they really wanted a cousin trip, they can do that on their own, right? Barb said she would be planning that in an instant and I'm pretty sure I would have to contribute in paying :/
Also, one of my fiance's cousins (Belle) used to be a friend of mine but the friendship turned toxic. Instead of having my back, she was spreading rumors about me constantly; stirring the pot with mutual friends, and just being happy when bad things happened to me. She uses people around her as a mouthpiece. Knowing Belle and Barb, they’re just using this vegas trip as an excuse to get out of town but it wouldn't really be for me. Wouldn’t be surprised if my old friend Belle started this idea and influenced Barb to tell me the idea. (I don't talk to Belle anymore). In the past, she wanted to invite her friends to my intimate birthday dinners and when I accommodated once, they went and did their own thing. Used my birthday as an excuse for them to go out and do their thing. NONE of the groom's cousins (especially the one wanting to plan her vacation/my bachelorette party) are bridesmaids. Belle relies on her cousins for her social life. When she had her bachelorette party, she was breastfeeding a 5 month old & pregnant. I'm sure this is her own agenda in wanting to go out/party; her second chance at having a bachelorette party. What are your thoughts?
PS: I told my sister (MOH) and she was offended: 1. It's not her job to plan the bachelorette party; 2. she's not even a bridesmaid; 3. you guys don't even hang out outside of family parties; 4. you let go of your toxic friend, Belle and it sounds like she's just using people (including you) to get what she wants; 4. you only invite people in your bridal party, close friends/family; 5. they're so entitled
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