Do your in-laws celebrate your birthday?

My family basically does the same thing, dinner and a gift. They will text my FW and tell her happy birthday and give her a gift whenever they see her, but they don't have a celebration for her birthday. My FMIL will text me happy birthday and that's it.

I wouldn't stress, I'm sure they didn't mean it in a mean way. Maybe they didn't want to overstep? I'm sure if your fiance brought it up, they would be more than happy to be involved. I honestly hate being celebrated for my birthday so I try to avoid doing things with anyone besides my husband (including my own siblings & parents) just because I could care less about my birthday (unless it's a big one like 21 or 30 or something) so I feel weird making a bunch of different groups do dinner.

Another thing to think about would be just inviting them to dinner if you already are going out with your fiance or your parents?

I'm about to celebrate my 3rd birthday with my fiancee, and so far none of his family have even mentioned it. It hurts but you can't make people care. My birthday next month is a big one, I turn 50. I'm hoping it's not forgotten by everyone like most of mine are

My family is big on birthdays, holidays, and gifts. They also live a lot closer to us, so it's easier to see them on a whim. My mom always gets FH something for his birthday - at least a card with a giftcard in it - and my dad normally at least texts him, which is notably less than they do for me. FH's family generally texts or calls him on his birthday and normally sends a gift a few weeks late. What they do for me is honestly pretty random each year - sometimes I get a card and a gift, and sometimes they tell FH they'll be sending me something but it'll be late (sometimes a gift shows up, sometimes it doesn't).

Agree with others that different families often approach birthdays very differently. My family always made a big deal over anyone & everyone's birthday. In H's family, if you get a card it's a big deal.... I get being disappointed, but if you're the only "in-law" so far, they may need some time to realize they need to think about how they want to celebrate new additions to the family. Happy Birthday to you!

My family is big on birthdays, holidays and gift giving. Plus we also live closer to them. We usually go out for dinner/ have a family dinner at home; then give gifts. My FH's family they live further away, so they usually send a text and a card in the mail. But they aren't into birthdays, or holidays like my family.

The thing is kinda the same with my family. His family makes a big deal out of mine. They want to celebrate it on my actual bday but they know how important it is to celebrate with my baby sisters. They also want to take me out to eat but i tell them i prefer a home made meal. On the other hand, with my family, they dont do nothing like this for him. My sisters will send him happy birthday text and buy him something. But my parents dont really want to do anything for him. I know it hurts him cause he wants to be acknologe by my parents. It hurts me in a way cause i feel the same. My mom doesnt really want to get close to him and gets upset when she sees him (she does this look that everyone notices except her lol.) All i can say is hang in there. I know your fh is hurt too that you dont get the same treatment.

My FH's family customizes birthdays to fit the person. My FH would much rather have his favorite meal made by his mom on his birthday, so they celebrate at their house. Tonight, we celebrated his mom and older sister's birthday (2 days apart) by going out to eat. The first birthday I had with them, they made a huge deal of it... and while it was appreciated, I don't enjoy the center of attention (my wedding is my one day of indulgence). Last year, we all went bowling for my birthday and this year, just phone calls and texts. I'm happiest that way.

My parents got my FH a gift card but they didn't do the same things for him that they would for me.