Does anyone else hate couples bridal shower games and the shoe game?

Honestly im dreading those too. We are extremely introverted and even though i want it to be about me i dont want to be everyones center of attention the whole time.

If you truly hate being the center of attention and don't want to play those games, have a conversation with your FMIL (with your FH) and kindly explain that you aren't comfortable with games like those. If she does still have the games it would suck but maybe stick it out. It should be people who are going to at the wedding and then getting through the games as quickly as possible. I get the not wanting to be the center of attention

We're not doing them. Everyone is dreading them in my family so we skipped them lol

I hate couple games too but, I also hate all shower games. I find them to be boring. With things like the shoe game and others it just makes things uncomfortable and awkward (either the couple is revealing private info I don't want to know or they really seem not to know each other well).

I'd have FH speak with his mom and let her know that games aren't necessary and that he feels uncomfortable about being put on the spot. Hopefully, that will work.

If not, could you and your FH "cheat" and look up the quizzes online first (most of these ask the same types of questions) and learn the answers beforehand so you look like your on the same page?

I'm glad I'm not the only one lol. And we honestly are considering if she does the shoe game just raising both shoes every single time and making it boring. Kind of like looking up the quiz questions and deciding on answers ahead of time haha!

I insisted on zero games for my shower and our couples shower. the couples one was more of a cocktail party anyway so that was fine, and the compromise at my mostly-women shower was a wine-tasting game that the host's husband coordinated for us. i also hate being centre of attention so i was relieved that the hosts were cool with skipping that stuff.

i find that most of the couples games i've seen veer toward couples being encouraged to be mean about one another's quirks and character, which just feeds this idea that complaining about your partner is a part of your relationship, which i am not down with at all.

I think almost everyone hates them.

We hate attention like that, too, so we didn't do any showers.

I specifically asked my MOH to not have any games at my shower.

See and I want to play those games as I think they are funny. But if you are uncomfortable just tell her that and you dont want to play she cant make you

My family, and it's big, have banned games from showers. They just seem juvenile to us. Instead, we eat and drink and have a great time visiting.

Most of the showers I've been to recently haven't even had any games. Not sure what my Mom/ MOH are doing for mine, but I have a feeling we won't be doing any games, which I am more than ok with lol. I'd rather spend the time mingling with everyone than making everyone watch me embarrass myself. I would just have a talk with your FMIL and say you were hoping to just spend the time enjoying everyone's company and would rather not do any games, but if she insists, here are a few that you are comfortable with.

I love the games! They never feel uncomfortable to me. I’m not quite sure why someone would dislike games, but to each his/her own!

I totally get that - I like the what's in your purse game and any others where everyone participates and you are not the center of attention - it's embarrassing for sure especially if you and FH are put up in the middle of the game together - idk I feel like it's really intrusive when people try to put you on display together, like probing into your relationship or something. Idk, just ick..personally I don't like co-ed showers at all, I think it's more fun to do girly things with the ladies unless you're going to nix the cutesy little games altogether, but that's just me.

In my family we always do the game where you divide into groups and make toilet paper wedding dresses on one girl for each group, the purse game, and we do a fun one where we make certain words like "bride" "wedding" "marriage" etc. taboo and if you say them you have to put on a silly crown until the next person says one of them.

From a guest standpoint, I find those games weird and I usually get bored 5 questions into the quizzes. I'm an introvert and while I enjoy games, I prefer something a little more... involved? Like the games you picked out where everyone plays. I don't want to watch a couple try to prove they're a match and know each other. Or have some poor soul (pun intended) have to hold my shoe and play Cinderella. Just weird.

I would find some other games you would enjoy and suggest those. Mention that you're not entirely fond of the games picked out as they feel "worn out" and you don't want the attention. If she's still pushing it, I would have your FH step in and say something. There's no need to have to suck it up and do the games you don't like.

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EXACTLY! that's like 100% how I feel too! I like to get the guests more involved, it's not a TV show and although I do enjoy watching couples that ENJOY playing those games, every time I've watched it's usually one of the bride/groom is super into it and the other one is just being embarrassed/beaten up in front of a bunch of cackling ladies! lol and I know some people love that sort of stuff but I'm always sitting there like "aww the poor person is getting beat up and now we all doubt how well they know each other"

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Love the pun! and yes, agreed also.

I think i'll say "oh yeah I found a few games that might be easier to play and keep our guests more involved since FH and I are so indecivie and won't have many good answers for the quiz games anyways"

Nope, I'm absolutely not a fan! We're having a couples' shower this weekend and it's just going to be dinner and drinks and excellent company.

The last baby shower I went to, we played party games like heads-up that were NOT 'shower games'.....but that was a group of board game fanatics so it suited the crowd and everyone seemed to have a great time.