Does anyone else have a useless fiance?

FH was excited once we looked at the venue. Before it was "I'll be happy with whatever you choose." I put him in charge of contacting the DJ which he did fine with but get by him to gather addresses for his guests for the STDs has so far been unsuccessful!

It sounds like you need to talk with him about helping YOU out. He may not care about the details, but it is not all right for him to let you shoulder the whole planning burden. If you're getting overwhelmed, and if he really cares about you then he needs to step up and help out, regardless of his level of enthusiasm for the details.

My FH is one of the ones with some TERRIBLE ideas that I have to talk him out of, which can be frustrating. But I've also made it clear that when I ask for his opinion or help on things, I'm asking because I want his serious consideration. Sometimes I have to dig around for it with him, but he's usually pretty good about pitching in and making some decisions in the end.

I have a useless fiancé when it comes to wedding planning. I was never the little girl who dreamed of her wedding. I can honestly say that I never thought about it. I actually get sick to my stomach and start to sweat just thinking about planning it. I have no idea where to start. I want to be married. But I don't want to spend so much of our hard earned money on one night. I also don't want to be the center of attention. Oh and there is a global pandemic going on right now so the guest list would only be absolute immediate family. So we decided to elope.

I have researched locations for us and sent them to my fiancé to review 2 months ago. He looked at them but never commented or picked one out of the curated list I sent him. I nagged him, which I never wanted to do. He said, he'd get to it but he wasted time on other less pressing things instead. Now 2 months time has passed. I don't want to nag him anymore. So I said. If the wedding happens then it happens but if it doesn't, well... then I guess we are not getting married. I tried, but I can't do this alone. I'm not marrying myself.

2 months ago I created a standing outlook meeting invite for us to plan wedding items. Roughly 45mins every week. I figured I could pull out some wine and cheese and we could make it a fun little date night thing...but he is always busy during that time and gives no initiative to do it at any other time.

Also my firm laid off 6 employees and my projects are drying up so I am concerned about my job, which adds to concern of spending money on frivolous things like wedding decorations or an expensive photographer. I just don't feel like planning a wedding by myself right now. I wish I had a partner who would help me and a vaccine for this pandemic.

An older thread, but I'm a tad bit shocked reading these responses. My FH is extremely involved, and while there are so clashes/compromises in planning or ideas, building this day together has been invaluable and has made me love him even more. As the day draws closer, we are so giddy with happiness and it makes my stomach flutter seeing him as excited for this day that is equally his. To anyone in this dilemma: shouldering the burden of planning (particularly if it is causing stress) is not okay. I might argue that a disinterested FH is also not okay. Hope it all worked out