Does anyone get cold feet

Being nervous about the day going smoothly is different than getting cold feet. If you are having second thoughts on who you are marrying, I feel like that’s cold feet. But I think it’s totally normal to get anxious about how the day will go. We plan so long and put so much money into it that we want it to live up to the hype. Just try to not overthink it and hype it up in your head too much. You’re having a celebration and you get to marry your person, that alone makes it a great day!

I've been engaged since 2019 and still get nervous sometimes. What helps me is that we're going to sit down with a lawyer to discuss the possibility of a prenup or other contract in case the marriage ends (not that we expect it to). It also helps that I love the person I'm going to marry. Just remind yourself of why you want to be with your partner.

It's ok to be nervous about all the vendors, wedding party, guests, etc... will go absolutely perfect. If this is all your worried about, no need to read any further, you got this!!



My 1st wedding I planned for 15 months (for July 2011). On that day I was getting cold feet once I arrived at the church & thought about saying no instead of "I do". I had too much money into it & thought I would disappoint family if I didn't go through with it. I never been to a wedding where someone did that before. Don't get me wrong, I loved him but something was telling me not to. On our 1st yr anniversary I found out that he cheated. By that, I mean asking sexual questions to another woman online through Facebook. Amongst other issues throughout, he wasn't willing to commit like I was in our marriage. We separated in Oct 2018 & finally divorced in Feb 2020. If any bride has cold feet on that day please follow your intuition or don't its up to you. Just to emphasize, I'm not trying to scare anyone or ruin anyone's happiness. CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL!! I am currently engaged & happier than ever. Everyone deserves to be happy & have the perfect wedding day!

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This is great advice, thank you for sharing your story and I m sorry that happened to you.

To the op the best thing you can do is take deep breaths and try not to do too much at once. As others have mentioned its totally normal to be nervous about things going smoothly day of or being the center of attention but if your concerns are deeper or your partner is showing you behaviors you don't like I recommend delving deeper into that and sorting it out before saying I do.

Big hugs and best of luck to you!