Does wedding planning make any one else stressed?

Is he okay with live-streaming it! That way everyone else could watch even if they're not physically there?

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Not even. I have tried it all. Can we have a videographer? No. Can we livestream? No. He is fine with it being recorded and I will send the video later. He is stubborn and I know if I push the issue he will shut down. I was fine until she asked that and then I felt horrible because I know she just wants to be there to see a happy day and I feel bad I cannot give her and others that.

Would doing a live stream of the ceremony be something you and your fiance would be OK with? That way, the additional people aren't physically there for him to see during the ceremony, so maybe he'd be a little less anxious than if they were attending? And your bridesmaid could still see the ceremony, and if you record the video, you'd have the entire video of your ceremony as a keepsake. If live stream is not an option, then stick to your original plan, and don't feel bad - it's your wedding day, you should invite only who you and your fiance want to!

I'm so sorry. It sounds like your fiancé needs to see a therapist about his anxiety if it is so bad that he won't even allow his own family at his wedding.

View Quoted Comment Oops, I didn't see the previous comments before I submitted my comment. Sorry about that! I'm sure your friend will understand! Since your fiance said he's OK with recording the ceremony, would he be OK with you showing the recording to your friend a few days later? Maybe setup a girls night and show them the ceremony video and enjoy dessert?

View Quoted Comment Aww my husband has really bad anxiety as well he HATES being the center of attention. He took 3 shots before our minimony lol I know he will need about 5+ before our big wedding lol

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Well it is also he is not that close but that is another story lol. He does and he has beta blockers to help. I feel bad because I do not want him to feel out of place on our day. I want him to feel comfortable and good and I appreciate the ceremony he is giving me but a apart of me wants to tell him dude suck it up for one day. That is the bridezilla in me, Not going to do it but I feel stuck sometimes.

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I'm sorry. It sounds like you have to give up the day you want which isn't fair.

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He has no say who I show it to and I mentioned sharing it with him family. LOL I would of course share with her and she gets it that it is his anxiety and she knew from the get go. I just felt bad when she asked because I would love for her to be there and even though she gets it I know asking him will just annoy him and end with a no.

Thats such a tough situation and I am sorry you have to deal with it. Your feelings and frustration are very valid! Wedding getting closer also definitely brings a lot of tension/stress between couples. My FH and i have disagreed on a few things regarding wedding planning but after having a little argument about it, we try to find some common ground where we both have to compromise. I think maybe talk to him and let him know how YOU feel and try to find that common ground. ❤️

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No and to an extent I did. Funny how things change once you are a bride. I was fine with eloping esp had we done it abroad which I guess right now good thing we did not lol. But once we started planning I all of a sudden wanted the big day. Even my friend who just got engaged said she wanted a backyard wedding with pizza and now she wants something bigger. I am excited for my day and financial wise it is better but it is stuff like that I feel bad not having more people. I am excited for what is planned and I know I will enjoy the day but yeah I kind of do want my moment of people celebrating the day too.

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See that is what frustrates me at times. You husband has anxiety but still is going along with the big day. Why can't mine ya know? LOL

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Yeah, I can't imagine having to give up celebrating with those I love for my wedding day.

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I have thought about it. Honestly the compromise is having the three guests we do have because if he had his way it would just be us two. Thanks for understanding my feelings.

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No I get it. Honestly not as important to me since I have many real family members I do not talk to and since I have no parents then less important. Another thing that makes me sad is not having my mom there the day of and for some reason getting closer to I feel it more.

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I'm so very sorry! I can't imagine how you feel not having your mom there for you.

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It sucks but sometimes that is life you know. I am going to try and focus on the day being positive I guess I just needed to vent it out here because I can't say this to him you know? If I think of the downsides then I won't enjoy it and I know the day will be beautiful. Thanks for listening I really appreciate it.

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I get it. Sometimes it helps to vent to people you don't know. Glad I could be here for you to vent to

View Quoted Comment Does anything help with his anxiety? Alcohol helps my husband he's a completely different person 🤣 (not really but he's no longer shy after shots)

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He has pills he can take. I think regardless he wants to keep it small and simple. I am ok with that and I know the day will be great but her asking me just broke my heart because I know she wants to be there. I think closer to I am nervous about a lot (catching COVID, something going wrong, forgetting something, my mom not being around for this day or the day having bad weather) and emotional so I feel everything is going to set me off into a crying fit lol.