Does Your Ex Know Your Getting Married? Do They Need To Know? Did You Tell Them?

All but one of my past relationships ended on mutually good terms, and three of my five previous boyfriends were invited to the wedding (one I didn't bother to invite b/c he couldn't come). Two of the three showed up, and one was in our saber arch. So yeah, I told them

I have 3 children with my Ex Husband and while he does know I'm re-marrying he is not aware of the date nor will he be informed. I have very little contact with him. Birthdays and Christmas is basically the only contact the children have with him (his choice not mine) or court dates. He re-married within a year of our divorce being final and then tried to "hide" it from myself and our children for whatever reason. I still don't get that but whatever. Yes if you have children and I think it should be said if the new spouse will be involved with your children without a doubt.

My ex has known for over a year that I was going to get married, that's because he would just pop up at my job at any time, we are still friendly not friends though. I haven't heard from him nor has he stopped by in a while. I don't think the ex whether husband or boyfriend needs to know, unless you want him to.

I did, but only because we share a child.

If only children are involved but if no kids why would you need to tell your ex for what... Does he tell you everything that goes in his life?

My ex husband knows, but only because we have children together. I am keeping the date and location a secret though because he's a major #&*# and I don't trust him to not try and sabotage something.

I think its none of my exes business. He is an ex for a reason. He knew some how...tried calling my fiance at the time (now husband) and saying he was going to get me back, etc. Well that didn't happen lol My ex was a crazy, controlling and abusive SOB so I could care less what he thinkS or how he feels about me being married. I am very lucky and grateful to have found such a wonderful man who treats me like a princess =)

I told my daughters father only bcuz we have a child and we are generLly in speaking terms. I also told my ex fiancé bcuz he thought we could get back together but al others no

No, as far as I know none of my exes know except one and that's cause I'm friends with him on FB. He and I parted amicably and remained friends.

Anyone else, I have not made any attempt to contact. If they know, I don't know they know.

I don't speak to my only "serious" ex, nor does he even live in the same state as me anymore, so he may or may not know through my BM's FB (if that).

My very first bf and his wife are going to be invited to my wedding, as I was invited to theirs two years ago!

I have two exes on facebook but they are both friends of mine as well. I didnt go out of my way to tell them , they found out over fb and both commented on my page saying congrats!

Edit to add: these are ex boyfriends not husbands! lol just to be clear

I have an ex who we were together 7 years. We broke up 2 years ago, and have not said a word to each other since then. Been in the same room and won't look at each other. However I adore his mother, ran into her yesterday, someone had already told her I was engaged....needless to say she wasn't that excited. lol So i'm assuming he knows. I don't think after 2 years he will reach out to congratulate or anything. So that's the end of that. lol there was a time he was my best friend, so I wish we were cool enough to have that conversation. o well. (his mother is still invited to the wedding) lol

I don't speak to my ex-bf or have any contact with him. He may find out through a friend of ours who works with him or through his parents since our wedding announcement will be going in my hometown newspaper, where his parents still live.

My ex husband and I have three grown children together. I don't see or speak to him if I can avoid it. Our divorce was very long and drawn out---because he refused to let me divorce him--and also very bitter. What I do is none of his business, and for many months after I left him, he would drive by my house at all hours to spy on me. When I would catch him, he would actually stop and come up to the door with some lame excuse for stopping by. Barf. I couldn't care less what he knows about me. I'm sure he saw in our small town newspaper that I got a marriage license. As far as I'm concerned, him finding out because it's a matter of public record is just fine with me. That's as personal as I want to get with him.

Like alot of the girls have responded, the exs of mine would know through facebook. I am only friends with 2 of them on FB and the one never responded or cared and the other one tried to get me back for a second, lol. He was married too! Sick! Anyways, my highschool bf and first love was weirded out at first even though he was already married. He found out through friends.

FH's ex-wife knows, but that's because their son is in the wedding. I haven't told any of my ex's on purpose. My ex that now lives in the next state (we used to live together in PA) knows via FB but we are cool so no issues there. My most recent ex had contacted me various time this past year, trying to "win" me back. I never told him I was getting married. Just that I moved and I'm happy. Felt he didn't need to know. Now "technically" I have an ex coming to the wedding...but we dated not even 2 months, and it was over 10 years ago. FH has met him and doesn't have any issues with him.

Told my ex only because we have a kid together just as he told me that he was getting married

I had to tell my ex horror I mean boyfriend, we have two children together. And it's kinda a big thing to the kids. I cant stand his new gf and she tried to make me jealous one day saying she was getting married to my ex. I told her she could have him and good luck with that! LOL! I was with him for 6 yrs. had 2 kids with the man and no ring! Better off without one from him too! I can imagine how bad it would've been getting custody of my kids if we had married.

Your ex should only be a factor if you guys ended on a good note and are still friends or have kids together. Only reason I say if you have kids together because the kids will feel some type of way. If you children are grown and out the house then I do not think you owe him any explanation whatsoever if you are getting married or re-married.

I didn't mention it to my ex - I talk to him from time to time but I just don't feel like he really needs to know...my friend asked me that same question and she was like if I was getting married I would tell my ex I was like oh okay well that's you - he's life is already ruined without me in it why ruin it even more...I'm not that cruel...could be...but won't =)