Doesn’t Make Sense!

I'm sorry you're going through this!

I have awlays assumed that a wedding was not the right time, to start to create a bond with someone.I personally don't want my future brothers in-law to be groomsmen: If we want to get closer one day, then it will happen, groomsmen or not. My future wife is supportive of my decision but ... Had it been important to her, I would have asked them, for her, though.

However, I understand why you asked you half-sis to be your MOH. Trying to get closer to a future in-law or half sibling is a good thing, of course.

And I totally get why you're confused. I know if someone asked me/ asks me one day to be a best man, groomsman,man of honor or bridesman and I don't want(ed) to be one , I would decline and explain why. I wouldn't accept and behave this way after the wedding.

You can be the bigger person and still congratulate her on her engagement.

Call her on the telephone and offer your congratulations, if you care about her as a person. Text can be only a step above junk mail and work memos, and do not express much feeling.

Some people are more private. I didn't text anyone a picture of my ring!

I suggest reaching out to her directly to offer your congratulations. It seems off that she chose not to bring him to your wedding, maybe something happened without you realizing it.

Reach out to her. There were some people I consider close friends or important to me that I missed sending personal texts to when I got engaged. They reached out to me and offered their congratulations and I’m so glad they did. Let her know you’re excited and support her!

You asked your half sister to be your MOH to bond with you. It obviously was not as good as a bonding experience as you would have hoped for. You aren’t entitled to a text or anything because you asked someone you don’t have the best relationship with to be your MOH. Asking her was your choice and she doesn’t owe you anything. It sounds like you are putting more work in the relationship and expecting her to feel/do the same.

The roles are not reciprocal. The bride chooses the closest best friend she has. Many pick out of obligation and aren’t close to those people. But she has the right to pick whom she is closest to as maid of honor or bridesmaid. It’s not a judgment against you.