Dollar Dance/Honeymoon fund/Wedding fund/Donation Ideas??

We were planning on doing the traditional dollar dance simply because we could not think of a way to say that we want money to spend on our honeymoon without sounding conceited. You could try a money tree if you wanted to. Its an old thing where people taped bills to an orb on a stick in a pot to make it look like a tree. avoid flames though

I didn't want to do a Dollar Dance at first. I though people would turn their noses up at it. BUT then we met our amazing DJ and he suggested it and said he will play "For The Love of Money" by O'Jays...It will be fun! I'm excited about it now

Lauren, i'm totally with you, I don't want to do a money dance and you can be sure that the FH would be conveniently unavailable if i tried to suggest one. I had been toying with the idea of just putting something at the bottom of my registry list "if you would like to donate to our honeymoon fund instead we would appreciate that too" or something ( haven't worked out the details) but then i just thought they could leave cards on the table... I like your idea of a box that contains them better so none of the cards get lost in the mix.

I am just doing the card box, but I may rename it.

I think that Honeyfund is completely acceptable. I think that Dollar Dances are regional and/or cultural. My future husband comes from a German/Polish background in a small town in PA. They are at every wedding and people get a shot or lollipop in exhange for the "dollar". Where we are now, they can come off as tacky. With all that said, if you need the money for a honeymoon, put out a card box, put on your website a honeyfund and do a dollar dance.

Thanks guys for the ideas and acceptance. ive heard ppl bash the idea all together. I think I will most likely do a card box but come up with a sign that eludes to the fact that it is for cards and or donations...but make it smooth and less obvious lol

Thanks guys for the ideas and acceptance. ive heard ppl bash the idea all together. I think I will most likely do a card box but come up with a sign that eludes to the fact that it is for cards and or donations...but make it smooth and less obvious lol

I think the dallor dance is what we was going to di

Im with u lauren...i know some websites will allow u to set ur honeymoon up through them and people can contribute but im doing a cruise and i dont think the can do that...what i was thinking was opening up a savings account and titling it the hill/correia honeyfund and since there is a boa everywhere this would be perfect....im thinking about sending the info with my save the dates and telling them that all deposits must be made about 3 months before the wedding so we can have the money before hand so we can pay off the cruise...also if you dont do a registy then people teend to just give u cash anyway...if u do a card box i would put a feww nice envellopes and pens next to it because some people forget to get cards

We arnt going on a honey moon so i cant get away with calling it a honeymoon jar or fund :/ we will be staying one night (more if someone chooses to gift it to us) at the villa where we are getting married. But we just need the money to help even out what we will be spending on the wedding and Maybe for savings and the future etc

Keeping my mouth shut. LOL!

I am in no way bashing your idea, but I would like you to please consider a few things.

1) Don't rename the card box. If people are going to give you cash, checks or gift cards, they are most likely going to tuck them inside greeting cards.

2) No matter how you spin it, asking for cash is tacky. Yes, I said it. However, 1800registry.com and ourwishingwell.com will allow you a few ways around that. If you don't want a honeymoon fund, you can register for a house. Basically, the money people put into it just goes directly to you. Spend it however you see fit.

3). If you really want cash, have your bridal party spread the word. Most people will ask what you want, and then they can say "Oh, the bride and groom would like to save for the future so a monetary gift would be appreciated."

I'm not sure where you're located, but in my area, it's very common to give money for a wedding. Most gifts (like kitchen or bath stuff) is given at the bridal shower.

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Dollar dances are also frowned upon in my area, but if they're common in yours, go for it!

Here's the link to 1800registry in case you want to check it out.

http://1800registry.com/HomeRegistry/headernavigate.do?.rnd=x$y&mw=registries&hw=registries

OurWishingWell.com

http://www.ourwishingwell.com/cashinsteadofgifts/?source=GoogleAwords&channel=26-1&gclid=CJqpnauQmq8CFcJM4Aod-QMAbQ

Its so funny how many people frown upon such ideas and yet traditional wedding eticut suggests you should ask people to throw you bridal showers and bachelerette partys both of which , if done as people think they should be according to all the websites and hype, cost alot of money. There is so much people ask to be done that arent nessisary and are simply because people think they have to or that its how a wedding is supposed to be.

I didnt ask anyone to throw my any parties and no one is helping us pay for the wedding. The idea of a card box or jar that allows people the OPTION to donate to the bride and groom but not required or expected by any means...is simply a nice way of helping out with funds and things you may need rather than things people say you need.

I am also not making a registry because i dont want to ask for anything nor do we need anything around the house since we already live together and have been for 5 years.

Appreciating the comments staying agreeable/nice

Yea i have thought about keeping the card box name seeing as how IVE HEARD (see i know nothing about whats common for weddings, i didnt even know ppl gave you money untill my fiance brought it up) ive heard that people just put money in the cardss and thats what its for anyways.

I live in sacramento and My friends and family all say there has been a dollar dance at all the weddings theyve been to. I however dont like the idea at all. makes me think of a stripper lol though I KNOW its not at all like that and dont bash the idea ...its just not for me. i would feel uncomfortable. I just wanted to get some creative suggestions from people who have also been wanting to do something humble and creative .

In tradition for mexican weddings dollar dance is a MUST! lol. My fh is from nebraska country boy so he didn't really get what it was... also his dad just passed away and he ended up dropping a class to take care of things, the military pays him about 2000 bucks every 5 weeks after the class is done, so were out of that money which was our honeymoon money, so i talked to my bridesmaids and were doing a honeymoon tree, so hopefully we can still take a nice trip that i already booked and just needs to be payed for.

At ourwishingwell.com you can actually register for cash.

There really aren't ways to ask for cash because it does come off as tacky. A card box is acceptable, since a wedding is typically a gift giving occassion.

If you really want cash, do a limited registry. You can register for gift cards to specific places that you frequent.

But the best way is to have your bridal party and family spread that you are trying to save toward a goal- house, postponed honeymoon, future kid's college fund, etc. They can politely imply that you would prefer cash without it coming off wrong. But at the end of the day, you really can't.

As far as the dollar dance- when I first heard about it, I thought it was the rudest, most tacky thing I had ever heard of! Then I went to a wedding where they did it! It was a freaking blast! We had so much fun! It's really all in how the DJ spins it to the crowd. They did faster songs, and I danced with the groom three times. Most of it was two stepping type stuff.

I understand you only want feedback telling you this is a good idea. But I promise, if people want the option of donating to you as you said, they will do so in the form of cash which they will put in a card, which they will put in a card box without you having to ask for it.

Everyone could use more money. We all know other people want more money. And a lot of people pay for their own weddings while juggling their savings and future plans. The key is to budget what you can afford.

The dollar dance is a cultural thing. If it's popular in your circle and you want a way to ask people to dig into their pockets at the reception, that's really your best bet.

I have never been to a wedding where they didn't have a dollar dance. I'm not having one because im having a destination wedding and I really don't like people touching me, but it is totally not tacky. I didn't realize it was a cultural thing, because most of the wedding I been to have been of diffrent nationalities, but it may be regional. Heck the greeks around here even have the money dance at graduation parties.