"Don't Let a Relationship Stand In The Way Of You And Your Wife"

View Quoted Comment We just stayed friends. I never tried flirting or anything. Neither did he. But then his relationship ran its course because she was the wrong person aha and then came time for us. even though I was in love with him, I'd never want to interfere in his relationship. He's my husband now, our time came eventually.

View Quoted Comment I understand why it may be disrespectful to break up someone's relationship but why trashy?

View Quoted Comment I understand that. How you get 'em is how you lose 'em.

View Quoted Comment In this case you were the case of the breakup but you didn't physically do anything so I wouldn't consider you a "homewrecker".

View Quoted Comment So you wouldn't actively break up the relationship but you would sit back and pray on it's downfall?

View Quoted Comment Can you elaborate on your perspective on soulmates? Is there a specific number of soulmates that you believe everyone has?

View Quoted Comment Oh, I see. Thank you for sharing.

View Quoted Comment Haha she didn’t see it that way at all! I was the other woman in her eyes 100%
A short list of things she said until she finally went away were
”Homewrecking b****” and “you’re a real c***” and FH had it much worse. FH is disabled sooo...

”Cripple”, “No one will ever love you the way I did” and basically wanted a medal for caring about a “crippled person” like I said it got UGLY. I’m happy to say we never saw her again but those accusations really messed with my head.

View Quoted Comment It’s just I don’t think soulmates are a concrete thing. It’s more like people have various compatibilities with other people. People change and grow and as they do if their partner grows and changes similarly or in a complimentary way then their comparability increase. If they grow and change in a different way there’s a chance their compatibility decreases. If they acknowledge the decrease and make an active decision to work on the relationship, great. If not and it worsens that’s when you have break-ups or divorces where they say they just fell out of love and it wasn’t anyone’s fault.

I always just imagined that when you find someone you’re highly compatible with that’s when you get that click or lightbulb moment of “omg yes! I love this person” and if you have someone you’re highly compatible with and you meet at a time of your life when there are a lot of opportunities and growth and you take it on together that’s when you get that magical “this is my person!” feeling. I feel that with my husband. I met him and we hung out constantly because we had such a connection. We also met during our 20s where we had a lot of change and growth going on. We grew together and formed a lot of shared experiences and goals for our future. If something happened that destroyed our connection, I believe I could find another person who I may be compatible with. We probably wouldn’t have such a strong feeling of “omg this is my person” because, as an adult, there aren’t as many natural points for growth and change.

Woah this got super long. Hahaha thank you for attending my TedTalk 😂

View Quoted Comment It's basically homewrecking. Its petty. I feel like just because one feels the other is their soulmate, doesn't mean the other person feels the same. Unless you know the other person feels the same, then let that person do the breaking up.

Barging in on anyone's relationship isn't cute no matter the reason. If you're gonna be the cause of a break up, let it be so without you physically getting into the situation. If the other person wants to be with you as well, they'll find a way on their own.

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Correct, I would not actively break up the relationship. I'm not sure if I would pray on it specifically, I would probably pray that God blesses me with the man I'm supposed to be with in general.

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Wow, that's horrible. I can understand why she was hurt and upset but she took her anger out on the wrong person.

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Wow, this is a really unique perspective that pushed my thinking. Thank you for sharing that!

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Thank you for elaborating on this.

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Got it, thank you for clarifying.

View Quoted Comment No problem