Does anyone else feel like they don't want to think about their wedding? I am happy with my marriage but don't like to think about the wedding because I just think about the things that went wrong instead of the nice things.
My husband and I were married in a civil ceremony about a year earlier before our church wedding due to covid so our wedding day wasn't really the day we became husband and wife and I didn't feel like that is what it was, it was for me a day to celebrate our love with our loved ones which we couldn't do before.
My hairdo was not at all what I wanted and although people said it looked nice, I was also told that my hair looks better when I just wash it and put it in a pony tail. The whole wedding day and day after I was sad about the hair whenever I thought about it, during the wedding I avoided mirrors. Also, my posture was horrible which I didn't notice on the day and I see the photos and it seems like there is hunchback of Notre Dame together with my husband and friends. I feel bad for not having worked on it more and while I have learned to love my body over the years and found a dress that fits my figure, I can't look at the photos and not see the hairdo or the posture. It ruined how my dress looked and the only thing I think of is "for the next big celebration in my life, like the baptism of a child, I'll look better". But it's a bit of a shame since your wedding day is supposed to be the big day and my friends all said how beautiful they felt on that day, and I don't feel like that at all. Also, Covid meant that we had the party deviate from the "normal", as everyone did.
Is it a shame to have invested so much planning into a wedding only to try to not think of it anymore? Or are we all just to pressured about how perfect and memorable that day should be?
I guess I am just ranting but would love to hear what you married ladies think 
