Don't want a wedding registry.

We did not want a registry either. We don't really need anything so my fiancé and I suggested everyone make a donation to a charity that is very important to us instead. The wedding is in April so we haven't heard much just yet, but overall the feedback has been positive overall after an initial surprise.

I would create a small registry with your FH’s overseas address. That way people have the choice if they want to ship or not. If you don’t have a shower most people will give you cash anyway.

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I wouldn't do the charity thing either unless you invite people to donate to a charity of their choice. Sometimes this can go wrong.

We did the same thing. H lived in Europe when we got married and I moved two days after the wedding. We will also be here about three years. We just didn’t register for anything at all. Two relatives really pressured us on physical objects that they could buy us. I simply replied we had a fully stocked home waiting for us in Europe, no physical gifts were required, and as we did not want to ship anything, they would likely hang out at my parents house if it didn’t fit into our already packed suitcases. They got the hint. Only one person brought a physical gift (a friends sister who knew full well we didn’t want gifts) and our suitcases were packed to the brim. My parents currently make use of an cheese board, cutting board, and picture frame!

Just do a small registry. Your guests should get the hint that you don’t need anything.

We did not want one, either. I ended up making a very small one because my party is throwing a bridal shower.

Just don’t register. We didn’t, and we only ended up with 3 physical gifts. Everyone else gave cash/checks.

I think it's perfectly fine not to have a registry. I'm not having a registry either.

Dont register and just trust word of mouth from friends and family to tell guests to do cash or gift cards. I had a friend who had the same situation and no one thought it was rude or distasteful. they were young and needed things but didn't want to have to pay to ship everything overseas and then ship back. They asked for gift cards and money they could use to purchase needed items once they arrived. Everyone was supportive of the idea and it totally made sense!

Me personally, we are not registering and have listed charities instead on our website. I already know we will get some gifts and that is okay for those who insist on giving us something. Our situation is different in that we already have an established home plus our wedding is destination so guests are spending a lot just to be there!

Have you thought about maybe choosing a "send away fund"? it would be a away people could donate to the moving efforts which would help you more than a waffle iron. Or if the 2 of you have a charity dear to you both maybe give that option.

FH have already decided we don't want a registry. We already own our own home,so we already have cookware, linens, other household items. It's not that we want cash either, though we understand and accept that some of our guests will probably send us a card with money in it (we don't feel comfortable with it, but we understand people will do it anyway). We just tell people who ask that we're not having a registry because their attendance at the wedding would mean so much to us that nobody could put a price tag on.

We’re not having one either. Just asking for money & gift cards.