Don’t Want Bachelorette Party vent

Hey ladies,

I am not having a wedding party. Just a MOH who hasn’t been a great person lately. Since my engagement, she has made a few rude comments about my fiancé’s looks or said things that makes me feel that she isn’t genuinely happy for me. She initially didn’t act this way when I first got engaged but this maybe due to the fact that she found her bf was married and they “broke up”. I was the one to tell her.
After that for my birthday (actually the day before) she was in town and wanted to hang out. My fiancé and I invited her over for dinner. The next day, she asked if I had plans. I told her that my mom was taking me out for a pedi/lunch and my fiancé had dinner plans. She begged me to cancel dinner plans with my fiancé and have dinner with her which I did. I was annoyed but became upset when she took a phone and left me at the table for an hour.

I recently drove several hours to see her during Christmas break instead of going to my graduation. The entire time I was there she was either working or bossing me around. She never showed me around town or asked if there was something that I wanted to do. It was her way or the highway. I figured at least I showed up. Once I left, she never called or text to thank me for coming or to see if I made it home safely.

I also passed my board exam and she never called/text to congratulate me on that. I just don’t know what her deal is.

Now she wants to plan a bachelorette party for me which I told her that I don’t want. I don’t have many friends, I’m still catching my breath from being in grad school for 3 years, and I honestly don’t want to spend another weekend with her bossing me around. Now she’s upset because I don’t want to go out of state and get a hotel with her for the weekend. I told her I’d rather do dinner when next she’s in town (btw she’s comes in town 1-2 times a month for work and doesn’t tell or call me).

I just want to be left alone and deal with her on the day of the wedding. Am I wrong?