Double barrel first AND last name?

I think CarrieAnne Jackson-Bates has a better ring to it than the other way around. But I'm confused - is his last name Thompson or Jackson? ETA I personally am dropping my last name and will just be using FH's last name.

I like the way CarrieAnne Thompson-Bates rolls of the tongue. It is a little sing-songy but not in a bad away. It's certainly a mouthful, but totally doable.

Haha no idea why Jackson is in there. I edited it out. That's our dog's name *dying laughing*

Bates-Thompson sounds a little clunky to me, I would go with Thompson-Bates. It flows so well!

Are you planning on having kids?

Why would your family be sad? Most women take the husbands name when they get married anyhow??

You could use your maiden name as your new middle name instead of hyphenating.

I think incorporating the dog's name is the best bet!

I don't look at your first name as two names, even though it is. It's just your name...CarrieAnne. I think CarrieAnne Bates-Thompson sounds fine. Or, CarrieAnne Bates Thompson (moving your maiden to your middle)

Why would your family be sad? Women usually take their husband's last name so I'm not sure I understand. Anyhow, if it's important to YOU to incorporate your maiden name, I think Thompson-Bates sounds better.

@JoRocka we'll definitely have kids so it would be nice to have some family connection

@Shalon I guess because my mom thinks it's submissive or something? She hyphenated. She hasn't explained it, but she once said something like "I put a lot of thought into your name! Why would you change it?" when I mentioned changing it a year or two ago.

@Anne YESSSSS. I'm not sure what it says about me that I called my FH by the dog's name...

Its totally up to you but I dropped my middle name & made my maiden name my middle. I couldn't drop my last name completely. It just means too much to me to completely drop my last name

I was going to say if you aren't having kids- just leave them the same.

Since you are- having the same name is useful- and I'd actually just pick on- and keep your last name as your middle.

Definitely taking FH last name but still undecided if I'll hyphenate. I still have some time to decide. I am also in NY so using my maiden name as my middle name is not an option.

You could also just keep your own names and hyphenate any kids.

Having a hyphenated name is a pain in the tail, in my opinion, especially a long one. If you plan to give your children double names, I would not hyphenate their last names, and I imagine this may affect how you handle your last name as well. My last name is 13 letters and my first is 6. The last letter of my first name, which makes it a completely different name, was always cut off of the roll at school and my name didn't fit in the bubbles during standardized testing or using scantrons in college. This might sound minor, but it led to so many headaches. People automatically assume that I'm telling them my first and last name when I give them my last name, so things are constantly mis-filed. My prescriptions are almost never under the right name, which has to be some type of legally punishable error, I'm sure. I'm constantly explaining that there's a hyphen and all of my work stuff does not have a hyphen because social security will not put hyphens on your card, so technically my social security card doesn't match my passport, drivers license, or school ID. This has also caused background checks to report that my social security number is not mine because the check was ran with a hyphen and not a space.

ETA: My first name was cut off the roll because it was Lastname, First.

I think you should drop Bates. It sounds better in my opinion. Adding Bates as the middle name sounds too long

OP, MANY women keep their own names or hyphenate their names. It is perfectly fine and your choice. Don't listen to some of these comments from people who apparently don't realize it's a thing. I think both options sound great - Bates-Thompson or Thompson-Bates.

Unless you have a degree or job where keeping your maiden name is important, I would just take your FH's last name and drop the maiden name, or persue using your maiden name as you middle name.

I know a girl whose name was Carrie Ann (maiden name). So she changed her name to CarrieAnn (maiden name) (husbands last name). I think that is a good way to do it since it seems you want to keep your maiden name in some way and take your husbands name. If everyone calls you CarrieAnn anyways (like they did with this girl) it doesn't change it that much to just make that your new first name