Drama Again!

Try to relax. Maybe get a massage? FMIL is not going to be the focus during your dress shopping experience. Make mentioning her on that day off limits (unless she's attending? ) You got this! Don't let another person interfere with your happiness.

Girl I feel your pain! My FMIL has said some pretty rude comments to me (even said if I don’t think this is what I want I still have time to leave). I tell him and he takes up for her but eventually talks to her about it. She doesn’t see the issues so I just finally said to myself that I’m marrying him and not his mom. If she says anything rude now I ignore it and go on about my day. It’s not always easy to do but I’ve been trying to.

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Thank you!!!!! Thats really good advice that i will be taking! She isn't attending thank goddess for that! I would probably lose my mind!!

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Thats is awful!! I'm so sorry your going thur this as well. I just dont understand at one point in time we were cool and then she just turned on me. In the last six months she has done so much messed up things to me and to others all having to do with our wedding. At first my FH would always take up for her, until I showed him proof of her ways and now he trys his best to always talk to her about it but she never seems to listen. I dont know, its just annoying!

View Quoted Comment At one point all was well for us too. I think they feel like we’re taking their baby away so they’re trying to “act out” to see if it can get them something. My FH didn’t see it at first either but now talks to her. Him taking doesn’t seem to be doing anything but hey at least we know they’re willing to stick up for us.

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It sure does seem like something, I just dont get it. I feel that they should be happy for their sons instead of causing un-needed drama, but at least they are willing to stuck for us like you said! I just hope it all stops soon.

I'm sorry you're dealing with that. You know that you're not keeping him from them. FH knows you're not keeping him from them. His family just needs to accept it.

I'm sorry you're stressing, but unfortunately you have to try and let this go because there is nothing more you can do to make things better (since you aren't causing the issue). Don't cause yourself stress because of FH's family

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Thank you! Your absolutely right! I'm letting it go! Yesterday, we ordered our dresses and I was super happy and it made me think about things, I want to be that happy thru the whole planning and wedding so thats what im going to do! I'm done trying to fix things that cant be fixed and im done stressing on his family and their issues with things!

I’m so sad for you. This is her stuff and dilusions but try not to let it get to you. Know that this is not normal for the MOG to pin down her future daughter. I know exactly how you feel as I myself have been facing a ton of drama from my FMIL. I think subconsiously she is freaking out thinking that she is losing her son since he will be getting married so she is trying to make you look like the bad guy. My fiancé’s mom loves doing that. Read my recent forum I just posted and it may make you feel better :-)

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I'm trying my best to not even be in contact with her, Its even came to me having to block her on everything because she just dont stop! and i will go read that!!!!!!! Thank you! I'm very sorry your dealing with the samething!!

View Quoted Comment Girl I do too. I get tired of saying stuff his mom is doing. I have other stuff to focus on right now!

That is not good. This is how my now husband’s mom was during the wedding planning. She caused all sorts of drama and it completely took away from me being happy. I hated her for that and even tho things are good now. I think she is just a self revolving drama queen that will never get out of my head. She loves twisting and causing hatred around which makes her feel on top of everything. We don’t put up with any of her drama now.

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I'm so sorry!!! My FMIL is the same way! Its been awhile since i posted this, but I made a decision to not to speak to her for anything and I have stuck to that. My FH has caught some hell because if it, but he totally understands where im coming from and isnt mad at me. She has cause so much trouble to the point that people i have know my whole life wont even talk to me. She is the type of person that twists everything to the point that makes it looks like she is the greatest in the world and im not but im at the point where i could careless. Wedding planning has been way easier since i havnt spoke to her and I love it!!!!

I know it's not easy but you need to remember you are marrying her son not her. So find a happy place and ignore them all. Be happy you are marrying your other half!

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It has became more easier lately because i have blocked them all. Now that i dont have any contract with her or the rest of the hateful people things are going way better! Wedding planning is much easier and our relationship is much better!

I feel like 87-90% of mothers are like this when it comes to their sons. I too will probably become territorial as my future son starts to date and seek a wife. However, it's not okay and I'm sorry she has taken it this far. Instead of celebrating a beautiful union in the making, she is creating bad memories that is just going to push you, her son, and any future grandchildren away. Family is such a beautiful thing. I can't imagine why some people are selfish enough to prevent their family from growing. Sometimes we as the daughter in-law have to be submissive to make this an easier transition on a mother who sees you as someone "Taking" her son verses marrying him. Once marriage is establish, it is up to him to fight your battle in this because he is your protector and if someone from his own family is hurting you that needs to stop. There's so much more I could and would like to say, but it's best we handle this with more grace. Forgive her. Whatever negative feelings she is carrying in her heart she will have to get past. Holding onto grudges, hate, and anger only ages you and kills you. I will pray for you and your family. I'm sorry you have to go through this.