I'm having problems with one of my bridesmaid and its gotten to the point to where I just don't want her involved any more because I'm anticipating her trying to make the day about her. To start, my fiance' and I are paying for the clothing and accessories. All our bridal party has to do is pay for their room and travel. I showed her the dress before hand I had picked out and that just "didn't work" for her. She has Mormon temple undergarments and the dress didn't work. I changed dress styles for her. I then paid an extra $200 to get wraps for each girl so she would be appropriately covered and she wouldn't feel out of place. She then started hinting her boyfriend was going to propose which he did and I was excited for her. She has since made comments about not liking the shoes I picked out, the dress I picked out isn't sexy enough, and then to top it off she can't even have her Mormon Temple wedding due to issues with non moral behaviors. She did get engaged and she and her fiance' are getting married on Good Friday (Easter Weekend) Which is the most important Catholic holiday. I was a little upset about this as we are Catholic and she has put a lot of demands on us to make accommodations for her religion but she flat out won't for ours.
I asked her if she had picked Easter weekend on purpose and she just gave me some answer about they didn't actually look (which I have a hard time believing.) She isn't planning on having a caterer when her wedding is at 5, and the reception is at 6, but we feel obligated to go to her wedding to keep the peace at ours.
The latest fiasco was when I decided on Talaria flats for the shoes for our bridesmaids and she is ignoring me, and not talking to me because she doesn't like flats with short dresses, and she is upset because she had told me she "had" to wear heels because she is 5'1 ish and she wants the height because she needs to look sexy/good for people. (In her words).
I'm so frustrated, I don't know how to talk to her, and I just don't want her involved in our bridal party any more because I don't feel like she is there to support our marriage which is the most important part to my fiance' and I. Advice?? Help?? How do I even go about approaching this and telling her that this day is not about her wants/needs!! I've tried to be accommodating but now I feel like she is just trying to walk all over me.
