Drama with the ex baby mama!

@Powers2- She is 7. Tons of kids including her older brother will be there so she'll have tons of fun.

What's funny is that over the last couple months all she's said is "send me pictures" okay no problem. Even getting her to send us school pictures has been a pain in the ass yet she wants us to get her pictures from our wedding. The double standard here is crazy.

This is weird. I did not invite my ex nor did he invite me. No thanks, boundaries are important.

Offer to share pictures of her daughter after the wedding, but that's about all I would do!

Ew, what an awkward situation this woman is stirring up. If I was the ex, I wouldn't want to be invited, even if my daughter was in the wedding. I certainly wouldn't always want to be around. When you have to be civil for a child's sake, you just don't do that. That's annoying, I'm sorry she is bringing this up on you.

@erin wood sounds perfect.

Like, the only thing I could imagine is if this was a baby and she was worried she wouldn't be looked after. But this is not the case here.

Sometimes people's reactions literally instantly confirm your choices. I'd send a simple "I'm sorry you feel that way" text, it's not worth any more attention than that.

@Powers2- Exactly! I've known FSD since she was 3. We've taken her to Hawaii and she was fine. This is all about the ex and her feeling a certain way. I'm sure it has nothing to do with the daughter being a flower girl. We have had FSD all week and not one phone call or anything. I had her call yesterday to wish her mom a happy 4th and no answer no call back. That's typical.

It's def a mix of jealousy and hatred towards you. She isn't even thinking about her daughter being in the wedding, she just wants to ruin your happiness because she isn't happy.

My son is in my wedding, but his dad isn't invited. He might pick him up the next morning so I can relax, or he might stay with my mom. Just like you said there will be plenty of family to be a helpful hand if she needs it.

Just ignore it, of course easier said than done, and enjoy your wedding.

She's practically married herself and just had a baby 5 months ago. She needs to be happy in her life and stop worrying about what we are doing.

How old is the FG, and who will be watching her at the wedding if not her mother?

This text is a great example of WHY you didn't invite her! Stick to your guns

Also, BEST OF LUCK! <3

Uhm, my ex husband got married last year, first time our son was a ring bearer...I was sad I missed it but no thanks. That would be awkward AF!

@worththewait - I know when I am around family there will be plenty of people to watch the child. I would designate someone to do so, as I am sure OP is doing. Probably one of the grandparents or a sibling of the Bride/Groom.

I personally hope you arent insinuating that the baby mama should be there to babysit the kid by that comment.

I wouldn't have invited her either

Don't blame you one bit! We're date twins. I know this time is super stressful and I can't imagine the situation you're in! Sorry sister! You don't need to justify your actions. She knows she disrespected you.

Don't invite

Why would she even want to attend her ex's wedding? So strange. No way does she need to be there.

I don't see why she thinks she has any obligation to be invited. Pretty sure neither of my parents exes were at their wedding....

Is no one going to mention how it's a forwarded text? so she sent it to someone else before she sent it to you

as some PP have said, it's an open invitation for her to show out. there is no way I'd ever consider inviting her.