Drama with the ex baby mama!

One relationship with one "mom" doesn't mean will be the same for the other "mom." Both are different people. If u get along with one and is invited IT DOES NOT mean u have to invite the other one if u already have a negative relationship with her. If her excuse is to see her daughter be a flower girl, she will have her chance when she gets married.

Drops mic* lol pisses me off

You are not obligated to invite her. Your FSD will be surrounded by family so clearly her mother does not need to be there to watch her and you can send home a picture of her dressed as your FG. My ex H got remarried and didn't even ask for the kids on that weekend, and he certainly won't be invited to mine, and there are no hard feelings over it on either side.

I'm with @blair!!

None of our ex's are invited to our wedding lol I don't blame you

@WorthTheWait- ummm...her father, grandparents, me, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. It's not an issue.

@emily- it was forwarded by FH to me.

Here's the latest- Jeeze. What a manipulative......

FH just explained that we only invited close friends and family and told her that his sons Mom and I are good friends. He also mentioned that she hadn't been the most cooperative with wanting to stay in touch and reaching out to us. We were supposed to pick her up one Friday and she asked if we could come Saturday instead because FH daughter had a school dance. Come to find out it was a father daughter dance and his ex chose not to mention that detail and FH daughter ended up going with her moms bf. It's just stuff like that. Yet we are the disrespectful ones.

Next one. The texts came in a little mixed up.

And for the record, we have called the last two days and left messages and no answer or call back.

Tell her to have her daughter as a flower girl for her own wedding. problem solved.

Ugh. It's your wedding. What is wrong with people?!!

This whole thing is bizarre and I'm sorry you are so stressed. She is trying to assert her self imposed importance on you and make drama where there doesn't need to be any. You're handling this like a class act.

Nope, nope, nope. She does not get to control or manipulate you. Stand your ground on this one.

It is an important day. For you and your FH. She can stuff it. Ugh

She's bothered now because the other ex was invited. Not because she's going miss her daughter as the FG. Let you FH deal with that mess.

The more I read it the more annoyed I am. Ugh! I love how she says "we are in touch and as close as you allow me to be". He never said anything about wanting to be close to her. Just his daughter. She is trying to make this about her and it's absolutely not. She's not going to be in our lives forever. Once FSD is grown I don't see us seeing her ever. My parents didn't see each other for 20 years until my engagement party. Why would they? And it's "MY" daughter. Nope, nope, nope!

Sorry you are going through this.

I would have included the mom for the sake of the daughter and also for the mom. We all handle things the way we think is right.

Hope it all works out for your FH. You're almost there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

She doesn't have to "be so flex", as if she is doing people a favor? It's the fucking law and what's right for her daughter.

No way would we have invited his ex wife or my ex husband. Awkward.

I think her text was civil, no swearing or name calling like some "co parents." However, it's your and FH wedding and if having her there would make either of you uncomfortable than you have no obligation to invite her. This day is all about you guys. It's an expensive day, with lots of planning that is meant to celebrate you as a couple. I would get a nice frame and put a picture of their daughter in her flower girl dress in it. Have the daughter give it to her. Besides that, just go with the flow. Don't engage with her. You have enough to think about it.

@Nonna- We actually thought it would be distracting for FH daughter. This is about us becoming a family. I know if she had been there it would have been all about her and her daughter. Plus her and FH do not get along AT ALL. The extent of the relationship is to tell her when we'll be picking up and dropping off daughter. We don't even go into her house.