Drama with the ex baby mama!

I understand completely

All the best--you've got this!

My mom used to say "Don't let the assaholas get you down!"

It's tough! I hope she doesn't try to retaliate by keeping FSD from us. Thanks for all the input and advice. I'm going to enjoy my wedding and time with my new little family and try not to think about this drama.

You were totally in the right to not invite her. You are not obligated to invite her just because her daughter is flower girl. Like if you and her FH take her to the beach on vacation are you obligated to bring his ex so she can see her daughter at the beach? Hell no. Stand your ground. Do not invite her. She sounds crazy.

Definitely let your FH deal with it. He should just tell her that he will be sure to send her some pictures of [daughter] in her flower girl outfit once you get them back from the photographer.

F her and her feelings! This is your day!! She'll get over it!! Or she won't.... who cares.

Ummmm we did not invite FH's ex-wife either, and we're not invited to her wedding. Her son is our best man. Never in a million years would I expect something like this. My dad and step-mom's exes (my mom and step-brother dad) we're not invited either. I think she's just upset she doesn't have a relationship like your FH's ex wife with you guys but you can't help that. She seems like the type to hold things over him from this text. Not very friendly

Why would you want an ex there if you're on bad terms? That's bizarre. If she wants to see the daughter be a flower girl, tell her to get married.

Ugh the thought of having FH's ex wife at our wedding is horrifying!! Fh's son is his best man, but that doesn't give her any reason to be there, the same way that we weren't invited to her wedding.

Also...*an*

@Beachy-I'm not "insinuating" anything. If I have something to say, I'll say it. I wanted to find out how old the child was. If I was the mom, I'd want to be assured that my child was being taken care of by someone that I at least knew of/trusted. Sounds pretty reasonable, no? Sounds like I might have touched a nerve?

Agreed with everyone stay out and left FH deal with it

I find it interesting that sometimes she references "MY" daughter and sometimes it is "our" daughter.

I'm marrying for the first time and neither of us have any children but I feel like it is totally your right to not invite her. Why would you??? It isn't a pageant the daughter is in, it is your wedding. She is going to walk down the aisle and toss some flowers for about 1 minute. I would just let her know (have him deliver the message of course) at this point no further guests can be accommodated and you're sorry (even though you're not).

I think you gave the ex too much wiggle room with the first response. I would have just said "we'll text you a picture."

I would have invited her, just to keep the peace.

But... it's your wedding so you can do what you want, but its just causing more drama.

No no no. That bitch can drop dead. First of all it sounds like you 2 already go way out of your way in order for your FH to get to spend time with his daughter. Second, no she isn't family only the daughter they have together is. Since you said she's getting married in 5 months, have FH tell her to go worry about her own wedding and stop worrying about yours. If his daughter is already with you from now until your day, let her call her mom but just ignore any other texts you get from her until your done enjoying your special day! Good luck

@Coffee- I agree! I think FH should have just kept it short and sweet. Too late now. Lol!

@AD2AP- We had no idea it was going to stir up anything. She hasn't said a word the last year until yesterday.

@Kimberly- She isn't getting married. She is practically married meaning she basically thinks she is and has a 5 month old baby with the guy. We do go out of our way because it's important to us. We have been calling her Mom for the last couple days and letting FH daughter leave messages. She doesn't answer or call back yet she has time to text FH about this nonsense. Thank you! I'm definitely ignoring it all.

Deja vu. This sounds just like my fh's baby mama. Just keep doing you and enjoy your day because you deserve it girl!

@Erin - Gotcha, so weird.

@ WorthTheWait- FH daughter is always well taken care of. We don't ask FH ex to report where the child is at every minute of every day to us, so she can't expect that from us. When she is with us it's up to us to decide who she stays with and who is taking care of her. Usually she has some slumber parties with my cousins. Anyways that's not even the issue. She hasn't asked us who will be watching her or where she is staying. Didn't even ask us where the wedding is. This is all about her starting shit.

Ha. I would be like NOPE.

No way. This is not a birthday party for DD. This is your wedding. She can watch video after and see pictures of flower girl. This is a ridiculous request and I would be concerned she wants drama n destroy your day. OMG no way.