So I've seen a couple of old forums about unasking bridesmaids and that it's typically a huge no.
I have agreed to ask all three of my fiance's sisters to be my bridesmaids, however the last one I asked was kind of not my choice. His mom kept hinting to it all night and finally was like "Maleah has something to ask you about the bridal party!" and all eyes were on me and I wasn't going to say no. So everyone was gawking and I asked under the pressure and she said yes. Of course if this happened now I wouldn't have asked (this was all a few months ago). The issue is, his oldest sister has never liked me and has always treated me and her brother like trash, spread lies on our names, and has made fun of us and even tried to split us apart at times. I thought me crumbling under pressure would help her be less of a rude person, but to no avail. Whenever she visits she still makes comments behind our backs and acts like we don't exist. It's been months and I haven't said anything about being in the bridal party to her because she is very rude (and also whenever she sees me talking about the wedding or her mom says something about it, she rolls her eyes and gives a very sarcastic and catty "ok cool").
So I've been trying to think of different things I could say or plans to come up with and I just feel at a huge loss. If I 'unask' her to be my bridesmaid, i will make her relationship with my fiance a lot worse and I'll never hear the end of it from my future smother-in-law. If I keep her as a bridesmaid i know she is going to talk behind my back all day, I mean she's already been making comments about how it sounds like she'll exclude me during the getting ready with the girls day of wedding process.
This is all very wordy, but what do I do? My fiance completely understands why I don't want someone that hates me standing next to me on the stage, but he says if I don't include her it's game over. I wish I didn't crumble under pressure in the first place but I know it all falls on me now. I just hate the amount of anxiety I have for this, it's genuinely making me want to just unask all three to avoid any problems or something IDK!