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Just Said Yes October 2018

Dreading My Bridal Shower Vent

Alexis, on June 13, 2018 at 12:50 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 6
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Let me begin with saying that both my fiance and I get very anxious when we're in front of crowds, big or small, especially with my own family. Which is weird, right? You'd think I'd be most comfortable with them, but I'm actually more comfortable with complete strangers. I feel like I can actually be myself with strangers. And obviously my entire shower is going to bemy family... and I really don't want to go.

Don't get me wrong, who doesn't love good food and gifts? But I'm just not looking forward to all the attention, and sitting in front of everyone, watching us as we awkwardly open gifts and say thank you 8 million times. And like I mentioned earlier, I don't feel like I can be myself around my extended family. I don't like that I have to put on a fake face and act differently than I normally would. I've tried talking about it with my mother, long before she even started planning the shower. I explained my anxiety, and she just tells me to get over it. Am I being crazy, or do you guys ever feel like this too?

Just thinking about this day is stressing me out hard.

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Latest activity by Maren, on July 7, 2018 at 11:42 AM
  • PBiazinha
    VIP May 2018
    PBiazinha ·
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    Have you accepted the shower yet? Maybe decline it?

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  • PBiazinha
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    PBiazinha ·
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    Let me add - A shower is a very nice gesture, not everyone is lucky to have people hosting one in their honor, so yes, consider yourself one of the lucky ones.

    However, if it is unbearable for you to deal with your anxiety for a few hours, then you should absolutely decline the shower. No one should force you to have one if you don't want it.

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    Super August 2018
    FutureMrsO ·
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    Honestly, I had a lot of anxiety surrounding my shower for the same reasons as you. And mine was not a couple's shower, it was just me. The day of, I was honestly so nervous leaving the house and knowing I was going to be walking into a room full of people. But the second I got there, my anxiety melted and I was fine. Everyone was so happy and sweet and I actually cried because it was so nice having a lot of my family and FH's family in one place and it was such a great time. As for opening gifts, I went super fast and we played registry bingo during it, so it was much less awkward because people were looking at their bingo cards the whole time! I completely understand your anxiety, but I think it would be a shame for you to miss out on this experience

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    Just Said Yes October 2018
    Alexis ·
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    I've accepted. My mom can get sensitive, so I know if I kept pushing it she'd get upset.
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  • AJ
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    I have social anxiety and was having a lot of anxiety about my shower too-- made worse by the fact that all of the guests attending were FH's family and FH was not invited. But my shower was this past weekend and i ended up having a nice time! It goes quickly and you can find a few people you're more comfortable with to be near for the majority of the party. It was nowhere near as nerve-wracking as I anticipated!
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  • Maren
    Champion October 2021
    Maren ·
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    Hi Alexis! Welcome to WeddingWire and congrats on your engagement! Smiley heart

    Don't do what you're not comfortable and excited about. To put it simply: it's yours and your fiancé's big day you're going towards. It's your wedding day & wedding journey. It can be whatever YOU both want it to be. If this doesn't include the bridal shower, then so be it! Hang in there and keep in mind the happy ending: your marriage with your future spouse.

    If you have any other questions throughout your wedding planning process, please don't hesitate to connect or post another discussion in our Community!

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