I am going to be blunt: I do not love my sister. She has been very mean to me our whole lives. I was not particularly kind to her either when we were kids, but I have never mistreated her as an adult, and I am almost forty years old. She was so mean to my husband, who passed away in 2017, that it caused us significant marital problems. The last time the two of us and my parents were together, she screamed a curse word in my face, threw her dirty napkin into my eye, and stormed out for reasons I don’t quite understand. I believe she suffers from a personality disorder.
I don’t want to attend her upcoming wedding but plan to do so as my parents very much want me to be there. It is a huge inconvenience. I am back in graduate school to further my career, and her wedding is scheduled for December during my finals. It will also take place in Los Angeles, two thirds of a nation away from my home in Texas. Of course, out of respect for my family, I will be gracious and kind while I am there.
To the brides: here is my question. This occasion is going to be unbearable for me for many reasons. I am not jealous: since my husband’s death, I have not felt a desire to marry again. I do, however, have a live in partner of over a year. My mother and sister refuse to include him. I know it is out of spite. My parents are very wealthy and could easily afford my plus one. They are, after all, paying for an elaborate Malibu wedding, suggesting that guests stay at the Beverly Hills Hotel and rent silver Audis.
I am dreading the event to the point of sickness. I throw up thinking about it, and, the depression to which I am prone has returned with a vengeance. Is it too much to expect for me to have my partner there for support?
I wish you all the utmost happiness in your marriages,
Jane
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