Dress Blues at Civilian Wedding??

My husband (active duty marine) was sitting next to me while I was reading this. I explain your post. His response was that was completely inappropriate. Your groomsmen should absolutely NOT wear his blues. He says (his words) dress blues are designed to make a person look like the best dressed and most important person in the room, and it would take away from the groom. Then I told him that the groomsmen was out of the military and his was response was why would he even want to wear his blues?!?

@Michelle k tell your husband I said SEMPER FI!!!!!!!! I agree with him 100%

He should be proud to wear his blues. Be proud of him ! I promise this will still be beautiful

FH's cousin is active military and does not wear his dress blues to weddings because he does not want to be the center of attention. It does happen, no matter what anyone says. FH's brother is now active duty in the USMC and he wears his blues to weddings, but it's because FMIL makes him wear them anytime he is able (church, weddings, etc.). It truly depends on the person. I know FBIL, if he was in the wedding, would not wear them because they are hot and itchy and he HATES being the center of attention.

It depends on the rules, and the person - but I am on the fence about what he would wear if FH asked him to be a GM... I'd leave it up to FH I suppose.

Heather, just because a bride doesn't want a groomsman in his dress blues doesn't mean she isn't already proud of him.

My FH was in the Marines and said he could wear his if he wanted to and that anyone could as long as they were honorably discharged.

I agree with Michelle. My Husband (a seven year veteran) also explained the same thing last night, that it is highly inappropriate to wear your dress blues when it isn't your wedding, especially if it is a civilian wedding. He said the same thing, that the purpose of it is to be highly formal, even more so than a tux. so, a groomsman in his dress blues would absolutely upstage the wedding. He really needs to just wear the uniformal groomsmen tux. A groomsman should only wear the blues if the groom is also wearing his.

I would say only groom if active military or retired. Not the GM regardless of his status. It's a civilian ceremony

I can't imagine why this would bother you. It isn't an event ABOUT him, but he was asked to stand up for the Groom, so he is now a part of the day. It is obviously an essential part of who HE is. His service should be honored.

If I had a bridesmaid who wanted to wear dress blues I would absolutely have the same answer - go for it! Also from a military family and it wouldn't bother me at all.

Yeah i'm not really understanding all the comments about "upstaging" the wedding. for our GM, we gave him the choice. he chose to wear his blues rather than pay to rent a tux. our bridesmaids are not wearing matching dresses/same color either, and the other groomsmen are wearing tuxes they already own or renting. everything doesn't have to be matchy matchy. people will still know who the bride and groom are LOL.

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I was in my future sister in laws wedding about three weeks ago and she originally wanted everyone in a tux (my FH is Navy but also hates wearing his so was grateful for the tux requirement) well one of the groomsmen dropped and her brother had leave so was able to attend last minute and had not many options but to wear his dress blues. Needless to say it was not what she wanted but her pictures (from what we have so far) are more than fine. Your eye is still drawn to the bride and groom. Hope this helps!

PP, Yes, the service person CAN wear their dress blues after retirement and/or honorable discharge for things such as weddings, funerals, military parades, etc. , unless it is in another country and they are specifically invited to wear it.

Oops, posted twice for some reason!

I think if it was the groom, it would be fine. But having a groomsmen wear it would look odd. He would stand out and could take attention off the groom. I want to say to some people, at a glance, he could appear to be the groom since he's the one standing out. But I know people will say that the groom is the one who's with the bride and you should be able to tell them apart. Anyways, if it was my wedding, I'd tell him to wear a tux