Dress color for mother of the groom

She shouldn't be wearing any shade of white...but that being said...no one is going to take the spotlight away from you, not even her in pearl. Maybe your FH can talk to her and see if she can find a different color?

I think she would wear maybe a shade that is similar to one of the colors in the wedding. I have ivory/blush pink/burgundy and gray for my color scheme and my mom has chosen a shade of gray and my soon to be mother in law has chosen a shade of pink.. I would throw it out there that you want to stick with certain colors and that would still allow her to be "in the spot light" by matching others in the wedding. Hope that works! Good luck

Is there something equivalent to a bridezilla but in context for a FMIL? Because that's awful that she would even say something like that. I'm sorry she said that to you. Maybe FH can intervene??

Yeah i would freak too. I would hope your finace would step up and say something to her. She shoule be in a color similar to the bridal party.

She shouldn't be wearing any shade of white and I would be mad just for the fact that she said she needs to be in the spotlight.

Oh boy. I don't think there's a rule that says no one else can be in a shade of white. It's unspoken. But it's all your preference. It's your wedding. Have FH talk to her, and remind her (if she's been married before) that she's had her day. It's your turn.

She is just dead set on it. Part of me feels like she doesn't even want me to have the wedding when ever we bring it up she finds a way to change the subject or complains about how far from now it's going to be. I'm to a point where I just want to go and elope

My MIL decided to wear a beautiful white dress with a little black lacing. She looked wonderful. I don't think it's really a big deal, no one will mistake her for the bride.

Im sorry... not cool at all. If you were the one approaching her with that idea is one thing.. My BM's will be in white as my dress is white with a blu-ish gray overlay. Its something I put a lot of thought into.. some may say why, but I seen inspiration pics and fell in love with the idea. As far as my mom, we came up with the idea she would have a darker gray dress.. something to complement with the wedding party. My step mom wants to complement as well, so hopefully FMIL will want to do the same.

I would tell her she can wear that color but that the guests will be side eyeing the hell out of her

That is messed up. My FMIL asked me what color was okay for her to wear the same as my own mom did. That is so rude and I don't blame you. WTH is she want's the spotlight on her too it's not her wedding. UGH some people!!!

Reminds me of my MIL, tells me it's her day just as much as mine, which I get but you had your day to shine. Maybe your FH can talk to her because I personally think that's rude and I wouldn't allow it to be honest