Dress Rehearsal - which night!?

I would do it the night before, that seems to be more convenient since your out of state guests would be already in town. You could not have alcohol served at your dinner rehearsal if you think that'll be an issue.

View Quoted Comment I do think it would be an issue but I can be responsible and not have a lot but just worried about the others. I want there to be alcohol and it to be fun just is hard to ask people to have fun but not too much fun lol

Not saying anyone is an alcoholic! Just I don’t want people feeling crappy the next day!

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They're all adults, hopefully they will be able to manage themselves and not party too hard. Save that for the night of the wedding!

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I agree with this. It's nice that you don't want them to be miserable, but they're adults so that's on them to know what's reasonable for them and when to stop. Don't change anything specifically for that reason, and if you think your partner will get a little too caught up in the fun maybe talk to them before and see if you can agree on mutual boundaries that you can remind them of.

Do what is most convenience for your wedding party, which is probably the night before. You'll just have to trust that they are adults. Talk to your FH personally about his plans for the night so he understands your concerns and will hopefully respect them himself.

I would definitely recommend having your rehearsal the night before your wedding, instead of 2 nights before. Travelling a day earlier and having to pay for an extra night of accommodations is a lot to ask of your out of town bridal party members, if you'd want them to be at the rehearsal. As long as nobody is a literal alcoholic, then I think people are adults and will be able to handle themselves accordingly.

It's definitely better to have it the night before, especially if people have to travel (and take an extra vacation day). There aren't that many things that bother me about other people's weddings, but having the rehearsal dinner earlier than the night before is at the top of that list.


If you're worried about alcohol consumption, you can limit the kinds of alcohol that are served, like by only allowing wine. If that doesn't work for you, set multiple alarms on your fiancé's phone for him, make sure it's fully charged at the end of tge dinner, and give him some Gatorade before he leaves.