Driving mom crazy

So ever since we began planning, it seems as though my mom isn’t a fan of pretty much anything I want to do. We have an insanely huge family, and the idea of having a 300+ person wedding couldn’t be further from what I wanted. FH and I decided to have a small, adult-only Destination wedding, with only our closest family members and friends. Since we are not inviting everyone to the wedding, she is insisting that we have to have a reception afterwards in order to not be “rude”. I understand what she’s saying, but I’m not extremely close with a lot of those people, and we really do not want to take on the added time or expense to have a second celebration. We just want to get married and be done with it. I am not huge on traditional weddings, so most of what we are planning is non-traditional. Everything from the location to my dress, flowers, menu, music, even the Officiant!... you name it, she seems to have other ideas. She isn’t being horrible about it, or fighting me on it, she just makes passive aggressive comments. Is anyone else driving their parents (friends, bridal party, etc) crazy with their choices? Is there any one thing you are doing that you are getting a lot of pushback about? Or something everyone thinks is weird?