My best friend for over 8 years dropped me from her bridal party because I was unable to attend her dinner rehearsal due to graduate school (doctorate degree) schedule.
Background: we do not live in the same states so I would have to fly out Friday morning to make the rehearsal. I was not able to get time off from school due to a test scheduled that day. I am getting married before her and made her my MOH (which I now regret because of how she made me feel).
I feel hurt and betrayed since it is out of my hands that I can't attend rehearsal. I told her I was willing to get caught up on anything wedding like lineup and she only has 2 other bridesmaids so I did not think it would be too complicated. I have been in 2 weddings as a bridesmaid and having my own so I understand how the lineup works.
I feel like I was given an ultimatum of either skipping school or being a bridesmaid and she was not willing to comprise or work with me. I understand it is her wedding but she said some mean things to me about my own wedding (and my requests were discussing hair and makeup). She ended up just replacing me with another friend before I was able to tell her my final decision or not (I was waiting to hear back from a professor).
She still wants me to attend her wedding as a guest but I am having a hard time saying yes. I feel like I have put more time and energy into this friendship and as soon as she got in a relationship with her fiancé she barely talked to me. I would have to reach out to her for her to talk with me.
I told her my feelings and it seemed like she did not truly care by what she was saying. I just do not know what to do and I do not feel like I want her as my MOH after this. I will be keeping her as my MOH in title only but how don't know how to limit her involvement. Things have been going down hill with us for a while so this is not just because of the bridal party but more about how she handled it in a manner that made me feel like I was not even important to her at all. While I made her a big part of my day. I have other bridesmaids who have been better friends than her as of recent. Has anyone been in a similar situation?? How do I handle this?? Can I give someone else MOH duties but just keep her as MOH in title?