Drunk groom = bad start to marriage

Leave him. He doesn't respect you at all.

This doesn't sound like a one-time occurrence to me...

I second what Helena said. The lack of respect here is astounding.

Did you two go through couples counseling? Not premarital; *specifically* couples counseling?

Question: Has he ever done anything like this before the wedding?

Has this been going on before the wedding? Generally there are some type of signs. Try couples counseling

That's truly awful.....I would leave him now before you get too deep into this. Has he always been like that!?

Omg!!!! How did it get that far??? This obviously isn't the first time he's behaved in this manner. Maybe you should seek couples therapy! It's deeper than you might think. I'm sorry you had to endure such an awful experience!!!

How embarrassing

He blames it on me calling him out on the vows thing in front of people. Yeah, I'm going to give him a hard time about it.

He and his friends party. So it's a constant argument.

At other weddings he has done a lot of stupid stuff. His friends clothes get ripped, or lit on fire. They are stupid together.

Serious question: Why are you just now asking for help with this? I'd be willing to bet that this is not the first time he's done something like this or hurt you. This is something that should have been dealt with long before you got married.

Can you provide some additional context, here, please?

Maybe he was scared of being married and didn't want to be a no show so he just got drunk. I have no clue. This is crazy and very hurtful. Traumatic

So it sounds like he has a habit of drinking with his friends and does not make your relationship a priority in his life. I'm not saying one cannot / should not party with their friends, but from what you've shared so far it sounds like that is his only priority and he does not respect you or your relationship. I'm sure this didn't happen overnight and I hope for the best for you.

Cut your losses and get out now!

Omg, I'm sorry. I would be livid, but, I have to imagine this isn't the first time he's disappointed you?

I'd insist on counseling.

How old are you both?

Oh boy. This sounds like a mess. Counseling. Stat.

His demonstrated in just about every way that he can think of that he's not into this and I'll bet it's not the first time he's done anything

He's wrong but you called him out in front of everyone? That wasn't the best move either.

You...I...why did you agree to marry him or ask to marry him, knowing this is who he was?

I agree with Alyssachu that calling him out in front of everyone, regardless of your embarrassment, was not the appropriate way to handle the situation.

So many red flags that the two of you should run to couples counseling. Marriage counseling. Individual counseling, potentially.

Shit, it's quarter-past five for me. Wine Wednesday is starting up on Monday, folks.

I know it's too late, but you guys really should have had premarital counseling if you knew this was an ongoing issue. He sounds really immature, that sucks. But I'm having a hard time feeling sorry for you because it sounds like this is his usual behavior.

Lighting things on fire...?

How is this a shock to you?