Drunk groom = bad start to marriage

This is so far from normal. I'm young, and if my FH ever acted that immaturely and irresponsibly, I'd leave. You are an adult with a child, you need a stable and mature partner.

The fact that you didn't recognize this as abnormal, unacceptable behavior alarms me. What else would you tolerate, thinking it's normal?

This is really sad. OP, your H's behavior is not normal. I really don't have anything else to add that has not already been said. I wish you all the best.

Do his child-like friends not have wives to go home to or are there more women out there that think this behavior is normal?

First, I'm sorry this is happening. I'm sure it's hard.

I would recommend couples counseling. But if this is who he is all the time, I'd leave. Respect is needed both ways to make a marriage work.

We were going about twice a month, but stopped right before my daughter was born. It was both couples and premarital. I have a problem with his partying and he has a problem with how I get mad at him every time he goes out. That's our issue pretty much.

No.. he wasn't doing anything with the guy! They were drinking. He isn't gay

Yikessss. Have you all not filed your marriage license yet? Most states have a time limit in terms of filing that.

With that said, I would not file and end the relationship if this is ongoing behavior. He is far too old to be acting like that and he should be told as such.

Oh wow. I would be so heartbroken and mortified. Dunno if you can fix that level of selfishness

I'm sorry to say it but I think you need to run in the opposite direction as fast as you can. His atrocious behavior on the day of the event would be enough to consider not filing those papers, but he didn't even write his vows, which he could've done weeks in advance?!? That shows that this was more than wedding jitters; it's just not giving a f about your marriage. I would NEVER be able to get over someone humiliating me like that. Never. This is getting left at the altar level. Boy bye.

Most of his friends are married with kids. I've talked to the wives, they all hate when they go out with their friends.

I think that I would prefer that my DH be gay than just wanting to spend the wedding night drinking with a buddy instead of his new wife

NO, this is definitely NOT normal, but unfortunately I think I married his twin brother (first husband). It will NOT change, and it is just the start of what you have to look forward to your entire life. I would SERIOUSLY attend some counseling to figure out why you don't see it for what it is. It took me YEARS to figure out it was not normal and that I deserved better. Now I have a wonderful, adult, man who appreciates and worships me. PLEASE think of what you want to show your daughter as she grows up, before you make a choice that will affect BOTH you and her your entire lives. Good luck!!

So sorry you are going through this and it's not normal at all.

Him leaving you stranded in your wedding dress with your baby daughter screams "I don't give a fuck about you. My friends are more important." I would be seriously rethinking this marriage/relationship if I were you.

If he did that on your wedding night, I can see him doing that on every big night in your lives. I can see countless nights of you and your precious girl waiting up for daddy only to fall asleep on the couch still waiting. My heart is breaking for you

I would not file that license, that is for sure. And I am not sure the wedding was a disaster, it was just par for the course in your relationship. Your daughter needs to see you value yourself and demand respect, and give respect.

Please leave. You deserve so much more and so much better.

The signs were all there before you got married. Is it too late to get an annulment?

Does he even realize that how he acted on your wedding night is wrong and hurtful? Unfortunately, he is never going to change as long as he believes there is nothing wrong with how he is behaving. Sounds like he thinks you are the bad guy for wanting a husband who respects you.

When he is not partying he is a great person! Great dad.

How often does he go out and party?