Drunk groom = bad start to marriage

A great person does not leave you alone on your wedding night.

@LittleDemon you said it perfect...):

My heart is aching for you as well OP! Please get out of this relationship, not only for yourself, but for your daughter as well. She shouldn't grow up watching mommy sad waiting for daddy to come home from another drunk night with his buddies. You deserve better than him! Don't let him, or anyone else tell you different.

Kelsey, yes, that is how I feel. Like I'm the bad guy for wanting respect and a respectable man!

No this is not normal. He doesn't respect you. Do not file that marriage license. Get out now. This is a unhealthy environment for your daughter to be in. She doesn't make the choices in her life right now, you do. You are responsible for the environment you allow your child to be in. Save yourself but most importantly make the right choice for that precious child. She did not ask for this. Save her if nothing else.

In what social situation is it appropriate to light people's CLOTHES on FIRE. No, this is not normal. Not at all.

If you are fighting daily then she is suffering in a toxic environment. Drunk or sober that child is having to deal with her mom and dad's problems. It isn't right. Get her out of that environment!

MMB, he probably only parties about once or twice a month. But on a weekly basis either goes golfing or goes to happy hour for a bit... those nights he isn't bad. But still not home with his family!!

Do you get to go out without him once a week also?

@AmyD Please get out of this relationship. I was in an abusive mentally and physically relationship it's not good. It will rip you apart. You deserve so much better for you and your daughter.

If this has been going on since you first got together why has it gotten to this point? Why agree to get married? Not blaming you. Just wondering if you thought that somehow marriage was going to magically fix everything.

Does he know how hurt and upset you are?

MMB, I don't go out. I want to be at home with my daughter.

I guess having that baby didn't turn him into a responsible partner.

First, I feel bad you are going through this. I completely emphasize with you. My H went through a similar phase with his friends a few years before we were married and unfortunately I had to leave him for a few months. That may not be what you need to do. I can't speak for what you need in that regard only you know your relationship.

However, think of how he made you feel on what is sensationalized as the happiest day of your life. Think of all the pain and disrespect you have endured. Are you a glutton for punishment? Because until you figure out you are better than midnight worry and disrespectful drunken behavior, you accept what he does until the next time.

Stick your foot down darling and at this point fuck love. Put action behind your words and feelings.

Didn't get through all of the comments but:

A. It sounds like he has a problem

B. Your relationship sounds unhealthy

C. You are old enough to know what is healthy in a relationship and what is not, so -- WHY did you get married?

Advice: Hold off on the sending in the marriage license (for a very long time), and if you are determined to try to fix things then get couples counseling. If he is not equally determined, get you ass out of there before it is [even more] too late.

He was totally wrong for how he treated you on the wedding day and it sounds like there's plenty of issues beyond that. But I don't know that your treatment of him is the best either. I'm getting the vibe that you expect him to be home every single night and you think it's wrong to do things outside the family. Couples need to have their own lives outside the relationship. If he's feeling stifled then it's only going to lead to him wanting to go out more.

If FH pulled this shit he'd come home to all of his belongings on the lawn.

I'm sorry you're have to go through this, but you calling him out was wrong you really hurt this ego. Copying vows is a bit weird but funny to me. If you had problems with his partying why did you guys consider marriage. I think you guys need to sit with your counselor and figure out why you love each other and why you consider being married. If my FH did that to me I would kicking his butt.

Did yall get engaged because of the baby? Or shortly after he found out you were pregnant?

This sounds like a terrible experience and I would have a terrible time forgiving my fiancé if he did something similar. However, please think long and hard about your next step. I would urge you to speak to your trusted people (e.g. Family, friends, counselor) rather than people on a forum who only know a snippet of your relationship.