Early bridal shower???

Has someone offered to host one for you and is looking for your feedback on date? You don’t throw your own shower, so I’d just let whoever wants to host figure out the date.

Congratulations on your recent engagement! Typically, the bridal shower is held within a 1-3 months before the wedding. I wouldn't recommend holding it a year in advance, that seems a little too soon, though maybe 4-6 months ahead of time if you really wanted it to be early? Work with whoever is planning your shower to figure out a date that works best for you.

I think a year advance is kind of soon but maybe you can do like an engagement party

I think it's definitely weird and gift grabby to have a shower a year before the wedding. It's also inappropriate to host your own shower. If you want to celebrate your engagement, have an engagement party.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. A few months early is fine. But your bridesmaids or a friend will host one for you. You just provide them with the guest list and available dates.

Congratulations. I wouldn't do it early especially if you are the one throwing it. I wouldn't even think about it yet. I'd wait until you have picked out your bridesmaids and leave it up to them. But if that's what you want to do and everyone is on board with it then I think you should go ahead and do it.

Congratulations on your engagement! I do think it’s too early to be talking about a bridal shower.

Apart from all of the other concerns already posted, a year in advance is probably too early to have a firm guest list for your wedding. So many things can change in a year, as we have all seen! And since you shouldn't invite people to the shower who won't get a wedding invite, that's one more reason to wait.

As someone who had one unusually early due to coronavirus (my bridal party threw one together for me when my area was in a lull because they felt it might be the last chance before a second wave in our area and some of them being unable to travel during the school year), I cannot advise more strongly against it. Wait til closer to the wedding

Yeah, I agree with everyone else. Having a bridal shower any more than 3 months out seems way too soon in my opinion. I don't really see a reason for it.

Congratulations on your engagement, my wedding isn’t until 2022 either and we haven’t done the engagement party either. I think you should wait a little to have the engagement party, now I didn’t know you weren’t suppose to plan your own because I don’t know who will plan mine haha. For now all we started talking about is the budget and started saving towards it.

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You can plan your own engagement party.

But rules of etiquette consider it rude to plan your own bridal shower, mainly because it is a gift-giving event, which should be hosted/planned by someone other than you. Doesn't mean you can't help whoever is planning it.

Thanks everyone!!! I won’t be the one hosting it I just wanted to get an idea if it was weird to suggest having it early or not. Thank you!