Educator with Honeymoon Questions

I’m also a teacher, and I would say you need to stand your ground. For me, I have 4 personal days a year which wouldn’t be enough, and if you use them all for the honeymoon what happens if something happens in your family and you need that personal day? You cannot use sick days for days you’re not sick. Many schools require documentation when using multiple sick days in a row. Also, if anyone you work with would know you’re on your honeymoon then it would be very obvious you’re not sick. That’s not something you want to get in trouble for, even if you have tenure. There has to be some compromise on his part and consideration for your career.

Both of us are teachers, so that made it easier, he didn't want to compromise with waiting so we changed our wedding date to the weekend of spring break. But wait! Stand your ground! Taking off is hard for a teacher, not only due to our little amount of days off but on our kids too. It's actually pretty normal to take their honeymoon weeks, or even months after the wedding.

I am a school psychologist so I work the same schedule as a teacher and get the same limited number of vacation/sick time. FH knew when we picked a December date that we may have to wait to go on a honeymoon. We considered going over Christmas but don't want to be apart from our family and prices go up then. We are now thinking of waiting until summer. Maybe discuss changing your date if possible since he is so set on going right away.

My sister and her husband are both teachers. They went on a mini-moon weekend getaway after their wedding in August as it was really close to back to school time. Then over the Christmas holiday, they went somewhere warm! It gives you guys something else to look forward too rather than having to go from wedding to honeymoon right away.. sometimes it’s nice to decompress.

Neither of us are teachers, however, because our kids will be graduating 8th grade about a week or so after we get married, we pushed the honeymoon back 5 months. We will be going a week before thanksgiving. Just worked out better for us. You still have a lot of planning time, so no rush. Keep talking about it.

I have seen many people split it up. Be firm and tell him if you get married in January that is how it will be.

Can you frame it to him as “We can get married in January and wait on the honeymoon or we can move the date to spring break/summer/Christmas and go on our honeymoon right away.”? Another option would be to get married the weekend before MLK day (assuming the school would be closed that day) and then go on a mini moon right after (maybe just Sunday-Monday, or you could take off Tuesday and have two nights away.)

I’m getting married in June of this year and just started a new job in October. I’m not going to have many days off by the time we get married (and it’s OOT for us, so I have to take off a few days before the wedding), so a mini moon was our only option.

We’re getting married in June and going on our honeymoon in July only because I couldn’t imagine having energy for traveling right after also I didn’t want FH to use all of his vacation time back to back. I’m a teacher also, I picked June because I’ve always wanted to be a June bride. There’s also a plus that we’re out during the summer.

We're getting married in June this year. We love in a beautiful area that we both really enjoy in the summer and don't feel the need to get away from. Plus, it's the weekend before July 4th and he'll have family visiting from or of town the whole week. Now I'm starting a new job and won't have time off allowed until after the wedding anyway.

We're choosing to honeymoon the following February somewhere warm when we are tired of the snow. We'll do it over the anniversary of our engagement right between our birthdays. Mine is late January, his is early March.

I'm just a substitute teacher, but I hope to have an actual teaching career soon. We're getting married September 9th, after Labor Day weekend. We agreed to have our honeymoon in the spring, since we would have to go back to work right after.
Lots of people aren't able to go on their honeymoons right away due to work, and if you wait, you could have more money to spend for that honeymoon!

We chose to marry after school let out, and we ended up waiting a month for our honeymoon because Husband had military obligations out of state. We liked having time in between to relax from the stress of the day, write thank you notes, unpack and organize the lovely gifts we received, etc.

I'm a teacher getting married March 2019. We will be doing honeymoon either spring break or summer.

I am a teacher getting married in April and taking our honeymoon 2 weeks later over April break. I understand for non-teachers how this is confusing but in our profession we are allotted a lot of time off and are not given 3 weeks of personal time to take at our own leisure. I am taking the Friday/Monday before and after my wedding since we are getting married 5 hours away. I would suggest a mini moon together and take a long weekend but I wouldnt take the week. If you take a day or two and go away somewhere fun and not too far you will have a great time & have plenty to look forward to after the wedding! I would explain to him that taking a week affects your job directly and will upset administration.

Neither of us are teachers but as I work in payroll there's 1-2 weeks of the month where I just can't take time off. We actually wanted to get married during one of these weeks but pushed the date, and will then be waiting around 3 weeks (which I know isn't the same as waiting from January for the next school break) to go on our honeymoon because I can't take (enough) time off before. It's perfectly ok to wait to go on your honeymoon, there are no rules that say you have to go immediately afterwards!

Teacher as well. We were married in May (school gets out mid June). I used my two personal days and we did a mini moon Saturday night (after the wedding) through Tuesday. It was great to have time to decompress after the wedding. We took our honeymoon in August and were able to jam pack it with things to do.

I teach Pre-K and originally wanted an April or May wedding date. It was actually my FH’s suggestion to book a July date at our venue (plus it was a discounted month), but there was no question that we would have had to have taken our honeymoon during one of my long breaks. Over the years we’ve only gone on vacation during my breaks. I don’t understand how your FS doesn’t get that you don’t have regular vacation days like at other jobs. Be firm about it, show him your school calendar and personal day policies. And explain how taking several days to weeks off will actually do harm to your class. Tell him that kids need consistency and the curriculum must be followed or else everyone will be horribly behind, which would affect your rating as a teacher. Honestly, he’s being a big baby if he can’t wait a few weeks to go on honeymoon, or if he can’t see the importance of working around the school’s calendar.

My FH is a 6th grade teacher. Our wedding is in May, but we are going on our honeymoon in July during the timeframe that we usually go on vacation. I'm a tax accountant so we had to plan around my busy times as well. I'm happy that we will have time after the wedding to finalize the travel plans and relax.

I have heard of teachers taking unpaid time off for weddings and honeymoons but this seems like a terrible idea to me because you're essentially paying more due to the lost pay. I hope your fiance comes around and is more understanding!

I agree with most of the above posters....either change your dste, take a quick 1-2 night minimoon, or go unpaid...those are your only options. I'm a teacher getting married mid-august, I wanted time before and after to prepare/relax. We were originally going to honeymoon right after the wedding....an all inclusive perhaps. But my son is now going to be studying about in Denmark so we are actually going to "honeymoon" for 3 weeks late June into July so that we can visit my son and see some European cities. Its a little unconventional, but it works for us!

Why is he being so defensive about this ? He needs to chill and respect your job. This is common for educators yes, but also many fields. My FH wants to take some days off around our wedding for prep and unwinding but doesn’t want to miss too much work in one go, so we’re delaying our honeymoon until it’s a better time for us. It’s a vacation, MANY people have to rearrange work schedules to manage and find the time. Jeopardizing Work and putting yourself in a tough spot with your employers is not worth it for a vacation.

a lot of people do couples’ counseling leading up to a wedding (some churches require it if they’re going to perform a marriage), and to be honest, I think it’s a great idea for all couples to aid in communication. If he’s not listening to your concerns about your job, it sounds like this could be beneficial for you guys too.

Delayed honeymoons are super normal, February break sounds like a great idea and it really isn’t that far after.

I'm a School Social Worker with the same schedule as a teacher. We're getting married in October this year and we're not doing our honeymoon until summer 2019 because of how little time off I get but also bc we want to go on an Alaskan cruise which only sails in summer months. We may do a minimoon over Thanksgiving break about a month after our wedding is there's money. I get 6 personal days a year... I'm using 3 days around the wedding. I think your FH needs to check himself. Maybe let him know if he insists on taking a honeymoon right after the wedding, you'll be using unpaid time which I'm sure he also won't like.