Electronic invitations

I'd avoid doing this if possible. I get 100+ emails a day so it's possible I would overlook it or look at it and forget to come back to it later. With a physical invitation, I put it in a spot where I'm forced to look at it daily so I don't forget. There's also a chance it could go to spam and your guests never see it, and if you have older guests, they may not check their email at all.

I don't see anything wrong with sending physical invitations and asking your guests to rsvp through your wedding site though. You'll save money on the rsvp card and postage to return the card.

I agree with Melanie. Emails can very easily get lost or be overlooked so I wouldn't ever consider emailing invitations via email unless you plan on calling or texting each guest in advance to let them know you will be emailing them. I think it is better to send a physical invitation and have your guest rsvp on your wedding website.

I think it depends on the nature of your wedding. If it's very casual - maybe electronically would be okay.


For me wedding invitations are so special and I love them and they give you a first impression of the formality and theme of the wedding.
I also feel it's not just any party, it's a wedding. So much money, time and effort gets poured it into this once-in-a-lifetime event, and for me that starts with the invitations.
However, we had a short engagement and therefore sent save the dates electronically. And we have a lot of international friends who can't come and they got their invitation to our ceremony livestream via WhatsApp or Email.

Im creating a Facebook event and going to invite everyone through there. And with close family and friends were sending actual paper invites for memory sake! At the end of the day it will save you a lot of money!

It seems like this is a know your crowd thing. I couldn’t fo the Facebook thing since I have quite a few friends & family not on it.

I see nothing wrong with it! Saves $ and easier to keep all these rsvp in one place

I definitely think it depends on the vibe and formality of your wedding. For a casual backyard BBQ wedding, I think electronic invitations would be totally appropriate! For anything semi-formal or above, I think you'd need paper invitations. As long as you're not having a black tie wedding, you can have guests RSVP on electronically though your wedding website.

You can send replies electronically. Many of your guests will not take the invites seriously if they are electronic because they aren't formal enough. They are fine for a family reunion picnic but not a wedding. We know at least 2 couples who sent e-invites to a wedding that was a notch above semiformal and almost no one attended because guests were waiting for paper invites.

In principle, I think electronic invites are a great idea! I got an electronic save the date recently (they used Paperless Post) and I didn't think twice. I just thought, "yay how exciting!" In this day and age, I don't think the formality of the event correlates with paper or electronic invite, it's just a decision to save money and/or paper. Especially since most of them will end up in the garbage (hopefully recycling). I anticipate us doing electronic invites. As for the concerns others have about people not seeing them, the people we are inviting are all close friends and family. There will be many opportunities between invites and wedding for me to say, "by the way, I sent you an email with the details for the wedding, let me know if you didn't get it!" Though, I can see how that may not work if you're inviting a lot of people you don't really know or talk to.

I feel like virtual Save the Dates are fine, but would prefer a physical card for the actual invitation. Having an invitation in hand seems more in line with an event of significance, plus I like being able to easily refer to it leading up to the wedding (I put invites on my fridge and can quickly reference the date, time, and location without having to pick up my phone or log in to my computer). Going virtual for STDs is fine and will save you money, but I think splurging a bit on real invites is worth it.