Electronic Save The Date ??? Yes or Naw?

Congratulations Sasha on your engagement! We sent our STDs via text message. These are easy to send as an evite that way you don’t have to waste so much money on postal. However, if you wish, your invitations can be send via mail.

Hey there this is a good question. So I did a combination of an electronic save the date survey which went out through a Google form. This allowed me to get a sense as to whether or not potential guess would be willing to give up their memorial day weekend to come to our wedding. I filtered who would be just attending the ceremony and who would just be attending the reception or attending both. Three months later,, I then followed up with paper save the dates that I mailed out Physical invitations were sent three months later. What does multi step process allowed me to do was to keep our wedding top of mine for gas particularly those flying out of the country and it really contributed to a high RSVP rate. I only lost 10 guest. Hope this helps.

View Quoted Comment Gurlllll!!! You’re my kinda girl, this is exactly what I would do!

View Quoted Comment Yea I don’t play! The persons who didn’t show up I was not mad at all. But Nearly everybody that confirmed with my initial electronic Evite were the same people that came and then I had even more people come on top of that for the people that canceled it worked out anyway.

View Quoted Comment Appreciate your quick response! I think electronic is the way we’re gonna do it

View Quoted Comment Absolutely! Best of luck with your planning!

As someone who mailed them, go with digital. I spent all that $$ only for most people to lose or forget about them. Plus the post office is so bad right now, a lot of your guests may never receive it at all.

View Quoted Comment Doing digital as we speak 😘

If that what you want to do that is cool we told some people but following send them a wedding invitation. We didn't do save the date thank goodness that we did spend any money because we had to change our wedding date. Good luck on how you chose to announce it. Congratulations to you both

There's nothing wrong with doing electronic or even just telling your VIP's via text or email. STD's are a relatively new thing, and as such, there's not really an etiquette rule. Only that the people you give STD's to must receive an invitation when the time comes.

I think email or text is fine. Just something to think about: my daughter & her fiancé did send save the date magnets that they purchased thru Magnet Street & they got an amazing price (one tip when working with their web site is to save your work often). There were a lot of positive comments from people that received them! They sent then out about 9-10 months before the wedding. It really helped us to get the invite list together early! Also, I think as a couple they really enjoyed working on the project together. I know I have always enjoyed getting a save the date in the mail & keep it on my fridge for a long time! I think with postage they spent around $1-$1.50/STD.

For my tech savvy people, we're doing e-vites but a few actual paper invitations for my older people.

View Quoted Comment Thanks ! Appreciate this 🫶🏽💋

View Quoted Comment Ohh yeah! I forgot about that part. Thanks for the reply

Save the dates have existed for many decades but they used to be given over the phone or verbally in person. It’s only been in the last 5-10 years that the postcard/magnet trend has taken over.


There is no reason to spend hundreds of dollars. An email, text or phone call works fine and literally costs nothing and you don’t get more budget friendly than that. If you want something tangible, Vistaprint has sales all the time where a set of 200 cards is under $50 for example, but you have to pay postage when sending them to guests. So the phone call looks like a better option.

Send the evite and if possible put an option on there or a note to reach out if they desire a paper copy of an invitation! Make them on Canva or something along those lines and then those who request one can have one but you're still saving $. I personally did evite only and it's been so frustrating, but I think that's because my guests aren't the most tech savvy.

There nothing wrong with evite for save the date which means you can just put the hundred is dollars into the actual wedding.

STDs from evite is just fine. I did that for my wedding and I’m techno savvy. It actually saves money from spending actual STD post cards and sending them. And the little money you suppose spend on STD post cards will go to your wedding. I hope this helps!!!!