Elope vs wedding

You need to be honest with him at this point. If you want the wedding tell him and let him know you didn't think he wasn't going to be so onboard with the elopement. You could always have a small ceremony and reception so you both get what you want.

I would just sit down and have a conversation with him, we don't have the vacation time or the money to take our dream honeymoon immediately after the wedding so we're waiting 6 months, maybe you can compromise and have the wedding you want with the bali trip for your first anniversary or a small ceremony and reception and the bali trip immediately after the wedding

Maybe compromise with a micro wedding? My FH wanted an elopement (as in, literally just us, our siblings, and our parents) on the side of a mountain somewhere. My family wanted a 150+ person wedding with a bridal party and a church. We settled on a 40 person micro-wedding on a beach and it has been the best decision we have ever made. We're getting a beach vacation out of it, all our closest friends will be there, as well as our parents and siblings - without having to invite second cousins and friends-of-a-friend and plus-ones we've never met.

But I definitely agree that you need to talk to him. Also, there are ways to do planned elopements! Elopements at this point are just super small weddings or spontaneous and not necessarily just spontaneous!

I feel like there's a good middle ground here where you can still have your wedding you've been dreaming of, you know?

I'm feeling good about it! Especially if you pick somewhere that you could turn into a mini-vacay or minimoon, you know?