Hello Everyone,
I was looking for advice on how to deal with family not being happy about me eloping. Here's the back story:
Me and my family are very tight knitted. We do everything together and have so much love for each other with great relationships. Me and my Fiance have 2 children and we decided to elope this year with our children. I've never imagined getting married without my family there, but we made the decision for ourselves. We've been putting off getting married and our destination wedding for a while now because it seems it's never good timing with our crazy schedules and our families equally crazy schedules to all go away together to Mexico. My sister in law is currently pregnant and a high risk and cannot travel and my other sister cannot travel with my nephews and nieces because of school and important courses they are taking and the only time we would all be able to go this year is in September (months from now). So we decided to elope with our children only and have a very intimate wedding in February instead (we had been planning since April of 2021). Out of respect, I told my family our plans and that I would come back and do something with them to celebrate once we were back. This back fired tremendously and my sister was so hurt, offended and angry about my decision, she decided to cut me off completely and not talk to me. My mom was equally hurt, but more supportive since she wasn't harsh and just keeps pushing me to change my mind so that we can all be together and attend. I understand their emotions and they are valid, however, this is our decision and I just want them to respect it and be happy for me. I am doing everything as if it were a regular wedding, the big dress, the ceremony, and a celebration with my fiance and kids only, not robbing myself from anything. I never really cared for a large party and always have wanted something very small and intimate. I also have stage freight and would probably freeze up exchanging our vows, even in front of my parents and close family and friends. We feel very happy with our decision and we are excited to begin this chapter in our lives, however I do feel a cloud over me ever since my family expressed how they felt about the whole situation. In particular, my sister practically disowned me and won't talk to me anymore. I thought it was selfish of her, and decided to sit and talk with her, but with her emotions high, she insulted me and it ended very badly.
Any advice on how I can deal with my family and their feelings?